When we were finished & checking out, the girl stated she was new & needed help. After she got the help from a coworker as she was finishing our paperwork, my H asked, “Where did you work before.” He continued to make light conversation with her, based on the stuff he was selling. She mentioned that knowledge of her H job, helped her with this job. So he asked what her H did, did it pay well, blah blah blah …… questions that intertwined business & personal information.
In the past I would have just saw that as friendly conversation, but now I’m wondering if he was fishing right before my eyes. Am I just paranoid? How can I tell the difference?
So many ways to go on this one. Do you feel this way always when he speaks to women? Is it more so when you know it is a woman that is attractive? Do you actually notice a difference in how he speaks to different women? And, lastly, did your gut tell you something is up?
I think the fact that she mentioned her husband a few times was a good thing probably. Surely a woman hoping to get baited into a conversation wouldn't mention her husband. But what do I know about being an AP, nothing so take that with a grain of salt. It doesn't sound like it was flirty though from what you've described. That's without the benefit of me being able to see the body language.
But I completely understand where you are coming from. I still analyze conversations. "Are they too friendly?" "Are they joking or flirting?" It's maddening.