So this morning I opened up accounts (checking and savings) at a local credit union where eventually I hope to get a home equity line of credit. I still have some ducks to get in a row before applying for that, though. But this is the start.
Maybe 2014 will be the year I finally get my shit together, financially speaking.
In my case, I'm trying to lower some bills, and up my income. I have a line of credit, and my cc's, I just need to get everything to balance since my job is only 10 months, and employment insurance is playing games and denying me on my off months if I work a second job for any part of the year. It's a challenge, but I'm up for it and I have a plan. It's just getting from here to the end without losing the house or watching it fall apart while I get there!
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Best of luck to you with your goals!!
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
It's just getting from here to the end without losing the house or watching it fall apart while I get there.
Yeah, it's been a juggling act for me too, and unfortunately I'm more apt to remind myself of the balls I dropped, rather than everything I've accomplished in the past 4-5 years.
And right now I've got this stupid ass squirrel chewing on my house because the eaves/soffits are rotting and need to be replaced, and S.A.S. has decided he wants to live inside my house.
I lived with high credit card debt and balance transfers and private loans during my marriage for 17 years. The divorce left me with some assets but also 50K+ in debt. I paid it off in 2 years, using some settlement money and income to just get rid of this black cloud over my head. Now I just have my regular credit card balances I can pay off every month. I am now investing some money into much needed renovations and building up my emergency fund.
You can do it. It takes discipline but it is so worth it!! Good luck to you.
Another thing I tend to not give myself credit for, is that 3 years ago I was a sahm and had been for almost 20 years. It's been tough getting to where I have a paycheck that can support not just me, but my kids who live with me. Surprise, surprise, not everyone wants to hire a sahm who was out of the job market so long. So while I may not be where I'd like to be financially, I really am not doing too badly, all things considered.
I need to do the same. Just need to build myself a ladder to get out of the hole I've dug. And stop making stupid decisions. Let me know if you come up with any good strategies.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-62
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011