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InnerLight posted 3/8/2014 14:33 PM

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/michele-weinerdavis/my-affair-just-happened_b_4893157.html

I appreciate when people get it. So many don't!

Merlin posted 3/8/2014 14:46 PM

Among the lamest statements spoken on planet Earth.

Interesting it comes up so often here.

Often followed by all manner of idiotic statements designed to produce sound but not sense.

HurtsButImOK posted 3/8/2014 14:48 PM

haven't yet read the link.

just wanted to pipe up and say the 'it just happened' or 'I didn't mean for it to happen' makes me see RED. You are not a f'ing victim, you are a perpetrator!

I got this so many times, hence why he is now an x. Tell me how 'didn't mean for it to happen' equates to purchasing an airplane ticket and arranging it with your whore before you get there to meet up and refuckfest?? So many deliberate actions = did mean for it to happen, planned and you paid for it to happen. FTG.

apologies it just makes me see red

HurtsButImOK posted 3/8/2014 14:54 PM

read the post

Affairs aren't spontaneous; they require planning and decision-making

Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity.

^^so very true

Holly-Isis posted 3/8/2014 17:11 PM

Good article. Ironically written by the author of a book MrH read when I kicked him out in '97... Before his first A.

Pretty much the only time he read books to try and help the M on his own. The other was Mars vs. Venus. Guess he only took them to heart long enough to win me back.

annb posted 3/8/2014 17:22 PM

Great article!

Breezy150 posted 3/8/2014 19:09 PM

Great article, I think I will have my WH read it. I heard "we didn't mean to" "It was an accident" and "we never meant to hurt you" from both WH and OW.

4everfaithful83 posted 3/8/2014 19:37 PM

What a great article! Thanks for the post!!

Unhappy marriages don't cause infidelity. Being unfaithful causes infidelity.

LOVED this!! ^^^^