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Another first date last night

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 Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 5:43 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

It actually went really well. I was my usual nervous and neurotic self. He was very nice, and I really like him. We met at a really casual place for wings, and stayed to talk for a couple of hours.

I'm not sure what to think, because he's quite a bit younger than me, and in a different place in life. However, he was intelligent, mature, well read, and ambitious.

It was the most "normal" date that I've ever had. I guess that's a sad commentary on my life. Great kiss at the end of the date.

The best part : I got carded. Hey, I realize that they must card everyone, but I'm taking it for what it is and calling it an overall good night!

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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FaithFool ( member #20150) posted at 6:02 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Brave woman, wings on a first date. I'd be wearing them...

He sounds nice. And *normal*.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 8:28 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 8:33 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Normal is good; I'm happy for you.

You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.

Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011

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phmh ( member #34146) posted at 9:05 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

It's nice to have a good one sprinkled in every once in a while to keep up hope -- glad you had a nice time!!!

Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny

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travels ( member #20334) posted at 9:38 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

I agree with FaithFool wings + me = a mess.

Normal is alway wonderful.

When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.
"After a breakup, the loyal one stays single and deals with the damages until healed. The other one is already in another relationship."

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MyVoice ( member #35695) posted at 9:47 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Glad you had fun, normal is always good:) what is carded?

Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

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persevere ( member #31468) posted at 9:53 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Happy for you WM.

Even if the differences, esp place in life, mean the romantic part doesn't work out having a good friend come out of it wouldn't be all bad. And the experience reminds you what a "normal" date should be.

DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.

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 Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 10:34 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

MyVoice, carded is checked for ID. The drinking age in my stTe is 21. I'm 45. I think they're supposed to card anyone that appears to be under 30.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 10:47 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Yeah!!!

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 10:51 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Sounds great! Good for you!

BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!

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Why?? ( member #18132) posted at 11:16 PM on Sunday, March 9th, 2014

Woo-hoo! Spring is springing

"And in the end, it's not the years in your life that count. It's the life in your years."
"If you want something in this life, reach out and grab it."

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 12:42 PM on Monday, March 10th, 2014

But the real question is, does he have respectable taste in beer?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

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thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 1:10 PM on Monday, March 10th, 2014

Happy for you. I guess there is hope.

Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 1:44 PM on Monday, March 10th, 2014

Yay for a great first date! Any plans for a second date??

I love it when I get carded!

Failure is success if we learn from it.

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 Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 2:16 PM on Monday, March 10th, 2014

Yes, there are plans for a 2nd date.

He wanted to see me yesterday, but I told him that I just want to ease into this a bit and take our time. He was OK with that, but has been randomly texting, so that's fine.

It's funny because I want a relationship, just not a 24/7 all consuming one. I think it projects that I'm not interesting in a relationship.

I tried to explain to him that I don't really know what I want, but I know for sure what I DON'T want. It's a learning process for me.

He asked me about my worst date ever, so I told him about my date with Captain Coupon. At least that date had some value to make us both laugh.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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better4me ( member #30341) posted at 3:54 PM on Monday, March 10th, 2014

Glad it went well!

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:58
Happily remarried!

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 Williesmom (original poster member #22870) posted at 5:30 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014

And an update:

Seeing him again tonight. He's bringing steaks to my house. He said he would cook if I provide the grill.

Yikes. I'm nervous.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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cmego ( member #30346) posted at 6:36 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014

Make sure there is a bit of alcohol so you will relax and be your wonderful self

Have fun!

me...BS, 46 years old.
Divorced

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cayc ( member #21964) posted at 7:11 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014

A man is bringing his meat to your house. Heh! Sorry I couldn't resist!

Have fun tonight!

[This message edited by cayc at 1:11 PM, March 14th, 2014 (Friday)]

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