When XWH left he walked away from pretty much every friend we have. I even remained close friends with his best man in our wedding, one of his best childhood friends, J, we ran a mud race together about a 18 months ago, and we keep in touch through FB. He recently messaged me about his new GF who he says reminds him a lot of me, which was very nice.
He and XWH hadn't talked since right around Dday until recently. Apparently, XWH finally reached out to J, and invited him down to XWH's house in Cabo (the dream house in Mexico we always talked about- though I wouldn't have picked Cabo - but he continued on with the dream, just replaced the wife, lol).
I talked to J, and I said, "stay on the straight path, unlike your friend, have fun, and you will not like that bitch better than me...lol."
J replied, "There is no way I would like her more....and I would never stray from my girl."
Then I saw J posted about how there were 100 college kids on his flight and the girl next to him asked why he would want to go to Cabo on Spring Break - so he posted - do I look that old? To which many people posted yes, lol... My XMIL even posted that she never understood why XWH wants to have a house down there with all of those young kids running around...makes no sense to her.
It kind of summarizes who XWH turned into - all about the party - and of no substance. And from what I hear he's turning into that lecherous old guy you wouldn't want around your college age girls, which is pretty sad. Sometimes I still wonder where this guy came from, but then I realize I will never get it.
As for J, a year or so ago, their contact would cause me to end our friendship, but now it's not a big deal to me. I have to admit I'm morbidly curious to hear the details...lol.
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.