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User Topic: Feeling pathetic... somebody slap me
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Member # 34554
Default  Posted: 6:41 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hi All,

My first NB relationship ended 3 weeks ago, I should be grateful that at least he was honest about his feelings, he said he loved the person that I am, that I'm awesome but he's not "in love" with me. It really is ok because I had started to see some red flags even though I fell hard.

Why do I feel so shitty then? I'm crying again as I write this. Rejection sucks arse!!

I am sure we will be better friends than a couple, we see each other almost every day because our kids go to school together but I want the hard part to be over already.

ME: FBW 40
3 gorgeous kids

Posts: 122 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Australia
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm sorry. The first breakup is the toughest. It feels like you're back to square one. But you're not.

You can get past it. Hang in there.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 9168 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
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Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, March 9th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No slaps for you, honey. Just hugs. (((((h&g)))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

Posts: 40249 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Member # 34677
Default  Posted: 9:35 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aww, I'm sorry you are hurting. Thank goodness he did have the courage to tell you the truth. And it's very mature of you to recognize that there were red flags there and long term, he might not be the man for you.

But being the one rejected does hurt! I get that. I hope you can still be friends if that is what you like. It might make it easier right now to be able to at least say hello and find out how each other is doing.

Eventually that might be become awkward and the friendship can die a natural death. But for now, it is sometimes hard to go cold turkey with not talking to him.

Choose what makes you heal and hopefully you'll feel better about his decision soon enough. ((hugs))

Posts: 1548 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: east coast
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

No slaps at all, Sweetie. Rejection hurts, even when you know it is probably for the best. It is okay to cry for awhile...that will eventually get better. Be gentle with yourself.

DDay 11/17/2010 BW:54

Posts: 4130 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
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