After another verbal tirade from OW the other day (which I posted on here), her BP contacted me and asked if he could speak to me about what was said.
I discussed this with WH, and he thought it would be helpful for both OW's BP and I.
When we met, he apologised for her behaviour and proceeded to tell me that I needed to be understanding towards her, because she's unwell.
He then told me that she was suffering from some mental health issues, and described my husband's condition to a T. She had told her BP that she was suffering from my husbands conditions, and that her A was not her fault because she was "sick"! This sicko actually had her BP believing that she suffered from ADHD and severe depression, and the A only happened because she was off her meds! (They had only been a couple for a few months at D-day). She told him that she had stopped taking her meds so that she could have a few drinks with her friends, and, without her realising, her condition had become out of control, and that my WH knew this and took advantage of it, and her. He also told me that after the A came out, her improvement was quick and simple; she was back to normal. I swear, you could have knocked me down with a feather! I felt sick that she could continue to lie so effortlessly, and this poor man believed her, and was supporting her through her "illness". Who would do that?
I gently explained to him that the things he was describing were actually my WH's issues, and that if she was really suffering from these things that she would be seeing a Psychiatrist, and having her meds regulated, and that her improvement wouldn't have been immediate. I felt so awful pulling the rug out from under him, but felt that he needed to hear the truth, he's heard enough lies to last a lifetime!
The only good thing that came out of our meeting was that he went home and confronted her, packed his bags, and left. I really don't blame him, I wouldn't stay either!
Unfortunately, she now blames him leaving on me aswell, although he didn't reveal who told him, she would've guessed. Just add it to the long list of all the bad things in her life that are my fault. God, I can't wait to move away from this bat-shit crazy bit@h!