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User Topic: I'm Angry Today
♀ 42707
Member # 42707
Default  Posted: 1:49 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Today, I discovered/learned that my H had another play date with our youngest child and the OW. This occurred on the same day that he emailed me telling me that he would "soon" let me know whether he was ready to end the A and about 1.5 weeks after I learned of the A. Since that email, he has basically stopped communicating with me at all. He even texted me last night while we were both at home to tell me about the dinner plans.

During our MC on Wednesday, I will be asking for a (formal) separation for the next 6 months to give us time to negotiate the terms of our divorce. It is very clear to me that he has no intention of trying to repair our R. I am SO ANGRY! I want to tell him what a lying, cheating, bag of sh@# he is to do this after I've supported him through all of his lame a$$ job pursuits and self-indulgent interests.

I'm trying hard to not just flip out on him today, but it will take every fiber of my being to wait a couple more days. Sadly, I think he will actually be relieved when I ask him to leave. He is too much of a coward to actually do it himself so I believe he is doing everything possible to ensure that I kick him out.

Me - BS; 36
Him - WH; 35
Married - 16 years
2 Kids - Ages 3 and 6
DDay - 2/26/14

Posts: 55 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio
♀ 29541
Member # 29541
Default  Posted: 2:04 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Anger is a good place to be. It is motivating and will help you along in the process.

Good luck!

Posts: 1426 | Registered: Sep 2010
♀ 35812
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Stay angry. Anger can be your friend right now and you have every RIGHT to be angry. And your next MC appt. should be your last as it is obviously a waste of time and money.

I would like to suggest that you go to the Separation and Divorce forum and start talking to the people down there. They are a lovely group of people who can help you with your next steps. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10164 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 4:54 PM, March 10th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, channel your anger into action. I'm sorry he's not able to do the right thing here.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
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