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TrustedHer posted 3/10/2014 23:05 PM

Being unemployed, I have lot of time on my hands.
With 2 good weather days in a row after The Winter From Hell, I've been making good use of it.

While I was out clearing some brush, I got to see 6 geese land on my pond for a breather in their flight North. It was nice.

However, I had an issue come up. Reviewing the backstory, X ended up with half my farm, and the other house on the farm. Currently, my middle son, DS28, is living in the house, due to a recent breakup with his long-term GF.

Apparently, my oldest visited him tonight. Since he's not driving right now, I assume either his GF or my X drove him out there. My granddaughter was with him. I could hear both their voices distinctly, even though I can't see people through all the trees.

I'm sure there's good reason, such as X providing transportation, why they didn't come the 1/4 mile to my house after the 20 miles from St. Louis to get to X's.

My Boo is the light of my life. I love her, and she loves me. It hurt to have her so close, and not to see her.

I also have a ton of things for oldest to take care of out here. Stuff he left behind after one of his moves. I've been asking him periodically to come over and make some decisions.

So I feel like an outsider and a bit neglected. Like X "won" the boys.

I know they love me, and I know they're mostly oblivious. I know they're not intentionally slighting me, and maybe they don't even know it hurts.

But tonight it does.

Sad in AZ posted 3/10/2014 23:10 PM

(((((TH)))))

Could he have been getting something (money? a possession?)from the X? Maybe that's why he couldn't interact with you? Didn't want to piss her off?

I'm sorry you're hurting; I can only imagine how you felt.

lieshurt posted 3/11/2014 08:30 AM

(((trustedher)))

Chrysalis123 posted 3/11/2014 09:23 AM

(((((TH)))))))

SBB posted 3/11/2014 09:40 AM

I know they love me, and I know they're mostly oblivious. I know they're not intentionally slighting me, and maybe they don't even know it hurts.

But tonight it does.

It hurts me just reading it.

You're right - they're not trying to hurt you. You're wrong too -she hasn't 'won' the boys.

You'll feel differently tomorrow but tonight I'm sending you hugs.

(((TH))

thebighurt posted 3/11/2014 19:22 PM

I feel that, too, when I know something like that is happening, TH. My head knows they love me and there's a reason, but my stomach and my heart feel it.

((((TrustedHer))))

ETA, Try to think of the good things of that day instead of that part.

[This message edited by thebighurt at 7:24 PM, March 11th (Tuesday)]

nowiknow23 posted 3/11/2014 19:25 PM

((((TH))))

Williesmom posted 3/11/2014 19:42 PM

((tH))

I'm sorry.

MovingUpward posted 3/11/2014 21:25 PM

Jrazz posted 3/12/2014 00:27 AM

(((TrustedHer)))

Nature_Girl posted 3/12/2014 00:46 AM

That hurts me for your sake. :(

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