I need the SI 2x4 gauntlet. Thank you sir...can I have another?
Honestly, engaging with her isn't going to help. She isn't going to see reason now of all times. Responding will lead you into a circular pattern of shitty logic and arguments, a pattern that goes nowhere but pulls you backward.
Invest your time and energy into someone who deserves it - like yourself.
[This message edited by Amazonia at 6:11 AM, March 12th (Wednesday)]
But I always write pretend emails. Its always worth a laugh to go back and read them days or weeks after I've come to my senses.
I believe I've asked before, but is her brain being affected by the C? My Dad's moods became very erratic towards the end as the C spread.
It is possible her brain mets are affecting her thinking, but I don't have a way to judge that right now.
Damn, I'm sorry you've got to deal with this.
Do not discount cancer in the brain. I say this not to tell you to go ahead & respond (NO, DON'T DO THAT!). I want you to prepare yourself (and your kids) that this could get severely rocky. I went into pre-term labor from the stress of what happened to my sister.
I have a journal and a very good friend that I vent to when I just have to get it out there. Otherwise, nothing back to him. He will never know that it gets to me--and that's the best reply of all.
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.”
― Pema Chödrön
It is also possible I'm channeling the Vulcan winter storm and thus have a need for logic to win out over evil (or cancer-induced irrationality). It's getting easier to not respond....like the text over the weekend where she called me dumb and taunted me to respond. No response. I was proud of that one.
Thanks all. Keeping keeping on. The marital home will be on the market soon, and hopefully by our court day in May we will be very close to D.
[This message edited by kg201 at 10:59 AM, March 11th (Tuesday)]
The feeling is more a need to have the truth out...and I know she will skew everything no matter what I say.
I would focus on speaking your truth to those who will actually hear it, those who will remain in your life (unlike an EX), those who are capable of hearing it because they aren't covering up that truth with lies to help them sleep at night. In other words, not your STBX.