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It's as if my marital home is possessed!

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 lost4now (original poster member #21634) posted at 5:41 PM on Tuesday, March 11th, 2014

I have suffered false R for five years. I finally asked my STBXH to leave in January 2013 and we put our marital home on the market in late February 2013. We finally had a buyer in late September 2013. Settlement was to be this January 2014 as we had a soil cleanup to contend with from an underground oil tank. It took a bit longer than expected so settlement was pushed off until the end of February....just two weeks ago.

I made an offer on a beautiful townhouse for myself and my two daughters to move to. It was exciting and we were looking forward to our new beginning. Two days prior to closing.....our buyers walked!!!!! Financing fell through for them and even though my realtor found two other lenders for them, they walked away.

All of my belongings were already moved out of the house just a few days prior as we were ready for the move. This past weekend I had to move all of my things back in to my marital home. The townhouse I was expecting to move in to is back on the market and I am once again listing my home hoping for a quick sale!

I am exhausted and really want to begin my new life!!!! My daughters were so upset and disappointed and they were looking forward to our new surroundings!!!! I am trying to remain positive but it is so very difficult!!!!

It feels as tho this house is possessed!!!! Like it doesn't want us to leave!!! To close this chapter of our lives! I just can't take it! Please send me some MOJO today!!! We have a showing today and I desperately want these people to LOVE it!!!!

When do I get to move on from this mess???

BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:58 PM on Tuesday, March 11th, 2014

I went through this same thing, honey. My buyers walked just days before closing and after I'd signed a lease and moved out with the kids. It nearly ruined me financially.

The house did sell eventually, as I'm sure yours will too. For now, however, I'm sending you every spare bit of SELL THIS HOUSE mojo I've got.

((((lost4now))))

You can call me NIK

And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane

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Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:51 AM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Sending sell the house mojo your way.

I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

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jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 1:49 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014

Sending super house selling mojo.

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 lost4now (original poster member #21634) posted at 3:33 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014

HOUSE UPDATE!!! Got a signed contract yesterday!

I am so damn happy! The only issue now is that the townhouse I had a signed contract on....went back on the market and they have another offer!!

I'm sad but I will find something else!

YIPPEE!!!

BS - ME 43
WH 44
Married 20 years
DDay #1 12/28/07
DDay #2 9/18/08
DDay #3 12/28/08
Dday #4 11/18/10 (same OW)
Dday #5 8/22/12 (same OW)
2 beautiful daughters
"Love grows where it is nurtured and dies where it is not!"

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Virginiagirl ( member #41656) posted at 5:25 PM on Friday, March 14th, 2014

Good for you!

I had the same thing in Feb, but fortunately (?) my buyer walked before I'd commited to a new place.

House has been on the market since September. Getting stressed here! Hoping for spring luck. I won't feel like I'm really moving forward until I get out of the fucking McMansion my NPD WH had to have, that we can't afford even when together. I'd be happier in a little apartment than in my big ol' house full of memories.

Me- BS-43
Him-WS-42
Married 15 years, living together 20
DDay May 2013
TT ongoing
2 kids, 11 & 15
OW- old girlfriend from High School.

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