Lucy - I hear you, and it peaks and falls with me. I have a few days where I don't think about her much, and then I am talking to her in the car non-stop. Funny thing is, it isn't her. It is whatever my H was so drawn in by, that he couldn't get away -- which actually had little to do with her as a person . . make sense? She could have been anyone.
That is why the APs don't matter. Hop over to the wayward side and read the post about what made the APs worth it, and you'll see some interesting perspectives. The only thing that made the AP special was opportunity and availability. A trained monkey could do that. 
