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cantaccept posted 3/11/2014 14:21 PM

or just a bad spell.

I have been sad, upset, crying, dreaming since dday #2.

Not constantly but with that constant internal ache/anxiety.

Now, the last few days I feel worse. I can't stop sleeping, constant nightmares. Today I was off from work and did absolutely nothing but sleep.

I feel exhausted and groggy. My sons are coming for dinner in 2 hours and I have done nothing, just want to cancel.

I know therapy, it helped but now that stbxwh left I cannot afford it.

I just feel overwhelmed, doing the basics feels like too much. I feel like all the energy for life got sucked out.

No question, guess I just have to move somehow.

This really is hell, even in my sleep.

norabird posted 3/11/2014 15:24 PM

Can you see a doctor about temporarily getting on ADS?

((((hugs))))

Aceofbase posted 3/11/2014 17:02 PM

Can I suggest I book for you about depression? It is called "Feeling good" by David D Burns. Also have you read any books about Affairs? Not just Friends by Shirley Glass.

Increasing your knowledge on these things can only help.

(((cantaccept))) be strong!

tushnurse posted 3/11/2014 17:59 PM

Can honey, this is all normal stuff and you are grieving.
1. Cut yourself some slack. Call your boys and tell em to pick up a pizza or a bucket of chicken
2. Make a dr appt and get some meds. It isn't gonna cure you, but it will help you deal.
3. Make a to do list for every day. Do it the evening before and put the easy stuff on it. Like get out of bed, shower, brush teeth, box up one box of asshats stuff, burn one box of asshats stuff. Check those things off it will help you to focus and give a sense of accomplishment. Include a specific time each to allow yourself to cry, scream, or sulk.
4. Sleep for no more than 10 hours for each day. Try not to nap. Depression feeds off depression and inactivity.
5. Make yourself exercise even if it just goin for a walk 15 minutes each day. And build up from there. Put it on your to do list
6. Do one nice thing for yourself every day. Get some flowers, paint your nails, eat something you like but rarely eat. Start focusing on you.

If you start off by doing this stuff you are going to see that not only will you survive this but you are going to be happy. Happier than you have been in quite some time.

((( and strength )))

ProbableIceCream posted 3/12/2014 18:22 PM

Yeah, you're definitely in a legit grieving period. I had trouble doing the simplest things for.. 2 or 3 months or so.. after my d-day. Hope you feel better soon.

Ivyivy posted 3/12/2014 20:46 PM

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Just take it one day at a time. It is truly one of the hardest things in life. Sending you strength and hope. It will get better - it just takes time (unfortunately too much time).