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User Topic: depression?
♀ 37451
Member # 37451
Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

or just a bad spell.

I have been sad, upset, crying, dreaming since dday #2.

Not constantly but with that constant internal ache/anxiety.

Now, the last few days I feel worse. I can't stop sleeping, constant nightmares. Today I was off from work and did absolutely nothing but sleep.

I feel exhausted and groggy. My sons are coming for dinner in 2 hours and I have done nothing, just want to cancel.

I know therapy, it helped but now that stbxwh left I cannot afford it.

I just feel overwhelmed, doing the basics feels like too much. I feel like all the energy for life got sucked out.

No question, guess I just have to move somehow.

This really is hell, even in my sleep.

"I'm still standing better than I ever did. Looking like a true survivor, feeling like a little kid" Elton John
I would now like to be known as Can!

dday October 21,2012
dday December 20, 2013
wh deleted
I attempted R, he was a lie

Posts: 3324 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Connecticut
♀ 42092
Member # 42092
Default  Posted: 3:24 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can you see a doctor about temporarily getting on ADS?


Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
♂ 42458
Member # 42458
Default  Posted: 5:02 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can I suggest I book for you about depression? It is called "Feeling good" by David D Burns. Also have you read any books about Affairs? Not just Friends by Shirley Glass.

Increasing your knowledge on these things can only help.

(((cantaccept))) be strong!

DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.

Posts: 149 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA
♀ 21101
Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Can honey, this is all normal stuff and you are grieving.
1. Cut yourself some slack. Call your boys and tell em to pick up a pizza or a bucket of chicken
2. Make a dr appt and get some meds. It isn't gonna cure you, but it will help you deal.
3. Make a to do list for every day. Do it the evening before and put the easy stuff on it. Like get out of bed, shower, brush teeth, box up one box of asshats stuff, burn one box of asshats stuff. Check those things off it will help you to focus and give a sense of accomplishment. Include a specific time each to allow yourself to cry, scream, or sulk.
4. Sleep for no more than 10 hours for each day. Try not to nap. Depression feeds off depression and inactivity.
5. Make yourself exercise even if it just goin for a walk 15 minutes each day. And build up from there. Put it on your to do list
6. Do one nice thing for yourself every day. Get some flowers, paint your nails, eat something you like but rarely eat. Start focusing on you.

If you start off by doing this stuff you are going to see that not only will you survive this but you are going to be happy. Happier than you have been in quite some time.

((( and strength )))

Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

Posts: 13282 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
♂ 37468
Member # 37468
Default  Posted: 6:22 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yeah, you're definitely in a legit grieving period. I had trouble doing the simplest things for.. 2 or 3 months or so.. after my d-day. Hope you feel better soon.

Posts: 881 | Registered: Nov 2012
♀ 42110
Member # 42110
Default  Posted: 8:46 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry for what you are going through. Just take it one day at a time. It is truly one of the hardest things in life. Sending you strength and hope. It will get better - it just takes time (unfortunately too much time).

Me -BW
Him - WH
Dday 7/11/2013
DS - 12 and DD - 16

Posts: 334 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast
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