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♀ 41950
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Went to the dr today to get checked for STDs. started my day out crying hysterically and it's been off and on since. I guess I will keep my hands and feet inside this roller coaster until it comes to a complete stop. I know that I'm going to be okay eventually, but I wish I could fast forward until then to get away from this pain. Right now I can't run far enough. Please say anything .... I just need to hear you all tonight. Thanks

Posts: 65 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Southeast
♀ 41961
Member # 41961
Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

BTDT honey. I completely lost it in the dr office when I had to talk to her... Then the L that same day....

You will be ok... Be strong. Take care. We are all here with you.


BS: Me 47 WH: 54 Kids: 17, 19, 21, 32 DD: every yr Ow: tons Status: fed-up. A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn't want for her daughter, nor should she allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for

Posts: 423 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
♂ 42012
Member # 42012
Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


You might not be able to see this now but eventually this will get better. At a really dark time in my life after my brother committed suicide, a few days later I remember sitting on my bedroom floor and I actually said out loud to myself "I'm going to be alright." I want you to do the same and say that out loud to yourself right now. "I'm going to be alright." Maybe it will make you feel better even if just for a moment.

Wishing you strength and courage to get through this.

I will be thinking of you tonight.


"I remind myself of this. I am a survivor. I have taken all this world has dished out and am still here. So there is no reason to be afraid. Whatever happens, I will survive. So now onto living. It is time for me to thrive." - DrJekyll

Posts: 4476 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Northeast US
♀ 41761
Member # 41761
Default  Posted: 6:31 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Aw Honey! You ARE going to be alright. In fact, better than alright. The beginning is always the hardest, but trust me when I tell you that those initial feelings of pain an anguish to eventually lessen. You are a strong, beautiful person, and we are all here for you. Come back often. I don't know what I would have done without my SI family.

Hang in there, it gets better.

Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...

ME: 33
WBF: 30
Together 10 years
1 doggie, 1 Cat
DDay: June 24, 2013
IN R...Working at it every day.

Posts: 818 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
♀ 40306
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


I'm so sorry. That doctor's appt sucks, doesn't it? Stupid WSs making us go through that because they can't be honest or faithful or keep their damn pants on!

I hope your results come quickly and that all is OK.

We've got your back! It's going to be ok.

It is.

Me: BS 44; Him: WH 47 M - 22 Years
D-day: 7/2013; D filed 7/2014; Divorced 7-27-16
...the WS affair starts off in a dreamland where everything is all Golly, Wow! and Meant To Be! and Soul Mates drop from the trees to frolic in the mist. -devotedman

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Default  Posted: 10:22 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

There's so many dips in this damned rollercoaster. So many places where the unfairness just fish-slaps you upside of your head. This is one of them. Please rest assured that the bloody thing DOES go uphill too. (((hugs)))

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

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♂ 39885
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Default  Posted: 10:26 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We got you. We are a strange family, brought together by dysfunction and pain.. But together....don't forget that.

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 799 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
♂ 42292
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Default  Posted: 11:30 PM, March 11th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just had my std screening today too. Instantly put me in a bad mood when I left the office and met up with the WW for breakfast. She could tell I was off, and asked me what's wrong. After a while, I told her I was just angry about the situation I was put in. You not using protection and potentially exposing me to who knows what.

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♀ 21101
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Default  Posted: 2:20 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


That is not a fun appt. I remember it well.
I hope you were treated with kindness, respect, and understanding. It is amazing how often they see it at the Gyno offices though.

Remember to be proud. YOU are putting yourself first by doing this, and that is a step toward healing.

(((and strength))))

Him: FWS
Kids: 18 & 20
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.

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