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 strawblond30 (original poster member #6263) posted at 4:16 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Anyone in IC that still has nightmares of their EX ? Mine usually is him and other women. Last night my dream was I found his cell phone and I went through it and found disturbing sexual pictures and later in the dream I asked how many women he has been with 15 he said no more like 20. My question is what does your IC say the meaning of these dreams. I'm not in IC I can not afford it.

Divorced 2013 after several years of infidelity on both sides. Remarried July 2018 my new husband Is opposite from Ex. I can actually breath with out worrying what he is doing. Living my best life now .

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Amazonia ( member #32810) posted at 4:22 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

I've never talked to a therapist about my dreams, but I have heard that when we dream, it's our mind processing what is going on in our lives. The fact that you're regularly dreaming about him and the A would lead me to say that you're still pretty fixated on it. Is that true during your waking moments, or just while you sleep?

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Leia ( member #42510) posted at 4:24 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

I am in IC, but we don't talk about dreams there. I did talk to a friend who lived through this whole mess, too, and we talked about dreams. It seems to be normal to have these dreams. I would suggest that you start googling how the brain works and such. There is so much new information out there about how/why we're hardwired the way we are and a lot of subconscious research. Check with your local library if you find a title you want to read. If my library doesn't have the book, then they order it for me through ILL (Inter Library Loan) or within our library system. Libraries are a great way to find information about these topics--and free!

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 strawblond30 (original poster member #6263) posted at 6:50 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Maybe it's because I've always wanted to know who he was with even when we was married. Or I don't want him happy like I am sorta . I have a great guy the realationship I've always wanted. I don't love my ex nor ever want him back it's gross to even think if I did. Like he is dirty

Divorced 2013 after several years of infidelity on both sides. Remarried July 2018 my new husband Is opposite from Ex. I can actually breath with out worrying what he is doing. Living my best life now .

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norabird ( member #42092) posted at 7:18 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

I think it's just your brain processing the trauma. Is there a reason he might be popping back up?

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nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 11:08 PM on Wednesday, March 12th, 2014

Sounds like unresolved trauma to me, honey. Have you read about PTSD?

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