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User Topic: Scared sh*tless. Prayers please
HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

JM mentioned feeling something strange on his chest and asked me to check it. There is a mass just below his sternum. Midline, about an inch in diameter. It doesn't feel mobile, but doesn't feel like bone either. He said it was a little tender when I palpated it.

Of course it was time for him to go to work and I can't call the doctor until tomorrow am. I'm going to call and get him seen tomorrow if possible. I am scared. My best friend from 5th grade lost her brother (who I always had a crush on) to lymphoma which metastasized to his brain. It was discovered due to a mass in his chest.

I can't say anything in front of our boys because I don't want to worry them.

Dr. PJ or any other medical peeps, you got something reassuring for me????


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending prayers


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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jrc1963
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Default  Posted: 5:47 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending Prayers!!!

FWSO just finished three years of chemo for Lymphoma... He's cleared and in remission.

I'm praying that this isn't even Lymphoma for JM... but if it is... I wanted to give you hope.


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:53 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((((JM & HF))))) Sending it all your way. Keep breathing, hon.


You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can call the on call doctor (call the office line) and if he doesn't feel well go to the ER.

I knew someone who waited and passed. Better to be safe than sorry.

Sending positive prayers!


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 6:35 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sending you positive mojo.

(((HFSSC)))


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ThoughtIKnewYa
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Default  Posted: 6:38 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((HF & JM)))

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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 6:53 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Here is to lipomas. Does he have any irregular bumps or lumps other places? Some people are prone to fatty tumors. Others develop them as we get older. He is heading into middle age and may have some hormone changes that make him more prone to growing these. That's what I am betting on. But I will send awesome SI mojo and prayers your way.


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Excactly where was the lump?

Most lymphomas that can be felt are noticed above the collarbones. I've never heard of any chest mass being palpated. The only "bad" thing I've seen was a patient with a rib muscle sarcoma (cancer of the skeletal muscle).


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

PJ, it's almost exactly midline, just below the xiphoid. I guess it's more upper abdominal, perhaps? I wondered if it could be a lipoma. I'm just thoroughly freaked out and scared.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:42 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is it soft? Does it feel like if you move the skin you move it? Is it circular?


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It feels circular. Not soft, but not hard either...firm, I guess. The skin moves over it...doesn't feel like the mass is moving.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
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caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

((((hugs))))

Here is a weird question... Can you feel anything similar on you? Cause I totally went to that area and feel "something..."


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5454real
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Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

prayers sent.


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purplejacket4
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Default  Posted: 7:54 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It still sounds like a lipoma. Try not to be too worried.


Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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HFSSC
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Default  Posted: 7:57 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

caregiver, I don't feel anything similar on me.

PJ, thanks! He's at work. I'm going to call our primary doc 1st thing in the am so I can quit worrying.


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((JM & HFSSC)))

Sending prayers.


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 8:14 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Acute SI Mojo for it to be lipoma (as i sit here palpating the one I've had for more than 30 years). I'm with Dr. PJ and the others. Always a huge worry, I know. You're right to want it checked asap. Hugs to you both.


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fireproof
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, March 12th (Wednesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he gets worse take him to the ER or call his doctor's office. There is someone on call and they may have access to your husbands history.

You are your best advocate. Once I was in a room full of doctors and they called a specialist to help another doctor who was having issues because things were unclear. There are abnormal things etc - best to be safe. That is why they are there.

Good luck!


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tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 7:55 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The other thing it could be if tender, is a sebaceous cyst starting up. I actually sent a 96 year old to a surgeon yesterday for one. It started as a pea sized hard mass, and by the next week was quarter sized, red angry, and sore.
The Dr excised it in the office, and she is all better.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
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