Topic: Let me know
Member # 34602
| Posted: 8:08 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
I can't go into details on here but I just need some support and reminders that it will all be ok. That your survived this. That there are tens of thousands of you on SI that are going through the same thing, feel the same way, and are living proof that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You guys are the ones who get it...I wish you were all here in my living room right now.
WH: 35 TimeToManUp
Married: 12 years, together 18 years
3 daughters: 10, 7, 4, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Posts: 1831 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: New Jersey
Member # 27148
| Posted: 8:12 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
It will be OK, it will.
What is happening?
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Posts: 3595 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:17 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
You can call me NIK
"The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it." - Brene Brown
Posts: 35310 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 37455
| Posted: 8:18 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
TCD, we've got your back.
BH 52, WW 43
DS 24(Mine),SD 22,SS 21(Hers),DS 10 Ours, DGS 5, DGD 2
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
“I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone.”
― Sophocles, Antigone
Posts: 4420 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 31528
| Posted: 8:20 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Please remember that you ARE strong. You WILL make it through this. It may not seem like it, but there are better days ahead. Sending you hope, hugs, and warmth (good grief it's cold by us).
Posts: 44494 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 26970
| Posted: 8:20 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
..You must have a helluva BIG living room!!!
..stay strong..have faith in a better tomorrow..
[This message edited by somanyyears at 8:21 AM, March 13th (Thursday)]
trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Married 43 yrs (together 48)
18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer !! I do believe in ghosts...
Posts: 4676 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Ontario Canada
Member # 40937
| Posted: 8:23 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
We're here we will get through it. I still take it minute by minute one breath at a time.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
Posts: 190 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: Kansas City
Member # 42486
| Posted: 9:39 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
wish i was in your living room right now, could do with a hug and the same reassurance hugs to you
me BS 57
Him WS 56
Married 36 years 2 sons 4 grandchildren
Posts: 701 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: France
Member # 30826
| Posted: 9:44 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Im worried that you said you can't go into details..this following your thread about TTMU not wanting you to post/read SI.
Has he taken your safe place from you?
M: June 2001
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
Posts: 11398 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 39682
| Posted: 10:10 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
Posts: 876 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Member # 38141
| Posted: 10:18 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
We (collectively) are stronger than anything the wayward spouse can thrown our way. It will get better - one way or another.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Posts: 683 | Registered: Jan 2013
Member # 21101
| Posted: 10:59 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Got your back sister....((((TCD))))
Kids: 16 & 18
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Posts: 11188 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
Member # 41884
| Posted: 11:02 AM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
We are all here for you. Remember; they don't call it a roller coaster for nothing, which means that yes, there are REALLY low lows, but that also follow with the highs too. It will get better <3
BW: 46 Me
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
Posts: 1652 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: New York
Member # 30803
| Posted: 1:38 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
This too shall pass.
Hang in there.
Me ($39.95 plus S & H)
Enjoying this chapter in my life.
Learning that being alone does not mean being lonely.
Discovering that where I've been is not as important as where I'm going.
Posts: 388 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Right Here, Canada
Member # 36969
| Posted: 1:54 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
"Promise me you'll always remember: you're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." A.A.Milne
DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.
Posts: 243 | Registered: Sep 2012
Member # 41761
| Posted: 1:58 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Hugs to you TCD - You WILL be ok. Just take it one day at a time. Don't forget to eat! And get plenty of sleep. You are not alone, you have come to the right place!
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
Together 8 years
DDay: June 24, 2013
Posts: 811 | Registered: Dec 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
Member # 35812
| Posted: 2:12 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Hey there, I brought my own chair because I'm betting your living room is getting a bit full. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 6883 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 39193
| Posted: 2:22 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
Whatever it is, it's no match for you, sister. You are strong, brave, and surrounded by love and support here.
Hang in there.
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
Posts: 1843 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Oregon
Member # 42092
| Posted: 2:23 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
You will be MORE than okay!
Sit. Feast on your life.
Posts: 4324 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC
Member # 31240
| Posted: 2:45 PM, March 13th (Thursday), 2014|
TCD, You have so much going for you. You've got a long, productive, joyful life to live. You're a loving, lovable, capable human being, and you will get through this.
fBH (me) - 70, fWW, Married 45+, together 45+, same sex ap
DDay - 12/22/2010
Recover'd and pretty much R'ed
I'm not an exemplar. I share my own experience because it's all I know.
Posts: 13242 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: Illinois
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