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TattoodChinaDoll (original poster member #34602) posted at 2:08 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
I can't go into details on here but I just need some support and reminders that it will all be ok. That your survived this. That there are tens of thousands of you on SI that are going through the same thing, feel the same way, and are living proof that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. You guys are the ones who get it...I wish you were all here in my living room right now.
Me: 35
WH: 37 TimeToManUp
Married: 14 years, together 19 years
3 daughters: 12, 8, 6, and 2 angel babies (2013 and 2014)
D-Day: 12/21/2011
Confronted him: 12/22/2011
This is the most difficult thing I've ever done.
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 2:12 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((((TCD)))))
It will be OK, it will.
What is happening?
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 2:17 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
5454real ( member #37455) posted at 2:18 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
TCD, we've got your back.
BH 58, WW 49
DS 31(Mine),SD 29,SS 28(Hers),DS 16 Ours, DGS 11, DGD 8, DGS 3
D=Day #1 5/04EA (Rugswept)
D-Day #2 3/10/12, TT til 3/13/12
Married 13yrs
"I have no love for a friend who loves in words alone."
― Sophocle
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 2:20 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((TCD)))
Please remember that you ARE strong. You WILL make it through this. It may not seem like it, but there are better days ahead. Sending you hope, hugs, and warmth (good grief it's cold by us).
somanyyears ( member #26970) posted at 2:20 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
.. 
..You must have a helluva BIG living room!!!
..stay strong..have faith in a better tomorrow..
smy
[This message edited by somanyyears at 8:21 AM, March 13th (Thursday)]
trust no other human- love only your pets. Reconciled I think! Me 77 Her 74 Married 52 yrs. 18 yr LTA with bff/lawyer. Little fucker died at 57.Brain tumour!
Flourgirl ( member #40937) posted at 2:23 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
We're here we will get through it. I still take it minute by minute one breath at a time.
BS me 39
WH him 40
Dd 7/1/13. TT 7/22/13
SAHM with 4 wonderful kids
joannie ( member #42486) posted at 3:39 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
wish i was in your living room right now, could do with a hug and the same reassurance hugs to you
me BS 57
Him WS 56
Married 37 years 2 sons 5 grandchildren
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 3:44 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
((((((((TCD))))))
Im worried that you said you can't go into details..this following your thread about TTMU not wanting you to post/read SI.
Has he taken your safe place from you?
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
AML04 ( member #39682) posted at 4:10 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
Met 2000, Married 2004
DDay 5/26/13, TT through 8/13
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13
Hopeful for R
stunnedin12 ( member #38141) posted at 4:18 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
We (collectively) are stronger than anything the wayward spouse can thrown our way. It will get better - one way or another.
Be safe.
ME - Betrayed Spouse
Him - Wayward spouse
Lawyers involved.
tushnurse ( member #21101) posted at 4:59 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Got your back sister....((((TCD))))
Me: FBSHim: FWSKids: 23 & 27 Married for 32 years now, was 16 at the time.D-Day Sept 26 2008R'd in about 2 years. Old Vet now.
Neverwudaguessed ( member #41884) posted at 5:02 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
We are all here for you. Remember; they don't call it a roller coaster for nothing, which means that yes, there are REALLY low lows, but that also follow with the highs too. It will get better <3
BW: 46 Me
WH:50
DDay1 9-9-13 (18th Wedding Anniversary) 6 wk EA, 1 wk PA
DDay2: 10-25-13 EA/PA with same OW 14 1/2 years ago for 2 or 3 months
OW: XGF Predator who never stopped pursuing WH
DS 15
DD 13
ExposedNiblet ( member #30803) posted at 7:38 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((TCD))))
This too shall pass.
Hang in there.
FindMyselfAgain ( member #36969) posted at 7:54 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
((TCD))
"Promise me you'll always remember: you're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think." A.A.Milne
DDay: October 7, 2011
R finally started in earnest: April 2014
Current status: If he won't make changes, I must.
4everfaithful83 ( member #41761) posted at 7:58 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Hugs to you TCD - You WILL be ok. Just take it one day at a time. Don't forget to eat! And get plenty of sleep. You are not alone, you have come to the right place!
Always know if the juice is worth the squeeze...
ME: 36
1 doggie
DDay: June 24th, 2013
DDay 2 : August 22nd,2017
Left him August 26th, 2017
Skan ( member #35812) posted at 8:12 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
Hey there, I brought my own chair because I'm betting your living room is getting a bit full. (((hugs)))
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
gypsybird87 ( member #39193) posted at 8:22 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
(((TCD)))
Whatever it is, it's no match for you, sister. You are strong, brave, and surrounded by love and support here.
Hang in there.
Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem
Follow your heart, but take your brain with you. ~ Alfred Adler
Letting go of the outcome is about the most empowering thing you can do for yourself. ~ LosferWords
norabird ( member #42092) posted at 8:23 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
You will be MORE than okay! 
sisoon ( Moderator #31240) posted at 8:45 PM on Thursday, March 13th, 2014
TCD, You have so much going for you. You've got a long, productive, joyful life to live. You're a loving, lovable, capable human being, and you will get through this.
fBH (me) - on d-day: 66, Married 43, together 45, same sex apDDay - 12/22/2010Recover'd and R'edYou don't have to like your boundaries. You just have to set and enforce them.
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