What he is doing, besides outright lying, is called *gaslighting*.
According to all the conversation on FB, they were having dates and slept together on our own bed when I would go visit my kids
checked his cell when he was in the shower and also found out he was going out with another woman
Almost three weeks after I left WS,he tells me that since I would not give him a second chance, he decided to go on with his life and was starting to date this other girl
he is telling me now that he is not happy with this girl, that he miss me and realized how so much happy he was with me and what a good woman I am, etc…That if I decide to go back with him, and give him a second chance, he will leave this girl and even marry me
Please, please you are worth so much more than him. A guy like that needs to catch some incurable disease by cheating with other women cause he thinks he's all that. Oh, wait, he's on that path already. Please don't join him.
Read the healing library located in the upper left hand corner. Please see a doctor, I'm not kidding, get tested for STD's. A guy like that(I've known a few
) thinks the sun rises on his penis and sets on his ass. He is special. Condoms not required.
Please, please if you need to talk, come here. We will be right by your side to help you get through this.
yme32313, I truly believe that he will never change and that even If I decided to give him a second chance and marry him, eventually he will cheat on me again and will be smarter at hiding evidence.
5454real, Thank you for your reply. The fact that he started dating a third girl so quick made me realized that either, he was already dating her while still with me or planning to.
As soon as I broke up with him, I went to the doctor and got tested for STD's. Unfortunately, I came up with two STD's, not life threatening thanks God, but one of them, I have to live with, for the rest of my life. I immediately call him and let him know and asked him to get tested. He said he will do, and when I asked him for results, he said he haven't have the chance to go, what makes me believe that he does have the results and does not want to show me.
Last time he sent me an email, I asked him for the second time to stop communicating with me and to let me live my life without him.
I do miss him so much and I thought that he was the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. But I know that I will never trust him again and rather be by myself.
he said he haven't have the chance to go
I believe that he hasn't gone. I don't believe that he will. That would interfere with his version of the world.
I will never trust him again
Good, you should not trust him without drastic changes that would take years to implement with intensive 1 on 1 therapy.
BTW There's another forum called divorce and separation here. There's a lot of good people there that will have some good wisdom for you too.(I'm down there also, but that's residual from my D from my 1st WW.)
I applaud your good sense to have left and resumed your life near your children. As painful as that was, you've shortened your time of being in agony by taking healthy steps towards your future.
So, in short, WBF, having screwed around with GF#3 (that you know of) who was Oh So Conveniently found mere weeks after you left him "heartbroken," now has had a change of heart and is willing to provide you with a Bright New Shiny Ring if only you'll ignore the fact that he is lying to you about GF#1 and GF#2, has managed to give you two STDs, one of which you will live with for the rest of your life, and utterly refuses to admit that HE put your health at risk by shoving his dick into anything that would hold still long enough for him to do so. Do I have that right?
Thank god that you aren't married to this delusional ass and you can just walk away. I would suggest telling him that you no longer want to hear from him about anything and that if he continues to try to contact you, you will go to the PD and see about getting an RO for harassment. And continue to enjoy your adult children. Frankly a dog would show more loyalty than this loser that you've wasted 3 years on, that you'll never get back.
Keep coming back for support and to vent. And I would second going to the Separation and Divorce forum as well. They are a great bunch of people too!
D-Day, June 10, 2012