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User Topic: Indigo Girls Love's Recovery
cinnamongurl
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Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 2:25 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I loved this song many years ago, it recently popped into my head and wouldn't leave. Thought I'd share it.
Songwriters: RAY, AMY ELIZABETH / SALIERS, EMILY ANN
During the time of which I speak it was hard to turn the other cheek
To the blows of insecurity
Feeding the cancer of my intellect the blood of love soon neglected
Lay dying in the strength of it's impurity
Meanwhile our friends we thought were so together
They've all gone and left each other in search of fairer weather
And we sit here in our storm and drink a toast
To the slim chance of love's recovery.
There I am in younger days, star gazing,
Painting picture perfect maps of how my life and love would be
Not counting the unmarked paths of misdirection
My compass, faith in love's perfection
I missed ten million miles of road I should have seen
Meanwhile our friends we thought were so together
Left each other one by one in search of fairer weather
And we sit here in our storm and drink a toast
To the slim chance of love's recovery.
Rain soaked and voice choked like silent screaming in a dream
I search for our absolute distinction
Not content to bow and bent
To the whims of culture that swoop like vultures
Eating us away, eating us away
Eating us away to our extinction
Oh how I wish I were a trinity, so if I lost a part of me
I'd still have two of the same to live
But nobody gets a lifetime rehearsal, as specks of dust we're universal
To let this love survive would be the greatest gift we could give
Tell all the friends who think they're so together
That these are ghosts and mirages, these thoughts of fairer weather
Though it's storming out I feel safe within the arms of love's discovery


Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos



Posts: 514 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
GraceRunner
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Member # 39856
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love the Indigo Girls! Wow, that song has a whole new meaning to me now. Especially this:

There I am in younger days, star gazing,
Painting picture perfect maps of how my life and love would be
Not counting the unmarked paths of misdirection
My compass, faith in love's perfection
I missed ten million miles of road I should have seen

I was listening to their song "Closer to Fine" a while ago and there's a line that says

'I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it'

which pretty much describes me perfectly.


Me - FWW, 38
Him - BS, 42
Married 15 years
2 young daughters
4 month EA/PA, DDAY 10/12

Posts: 40 | Registered: Jul 2013
NoGoodUsername
♂ 40181
Member # 40181
Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

A couple of years into our relationship, my BW made a mix CD for me that included Closer to Fine. It was emotional for me back then but reading this now reduced me to tears.

I couldn't have properly related to Love's Recovery back then, but it sure touches today. (Yes, I went and listened to both of these songs right away.)

Looking back at my affair, it staggers me that I threw away this grand partnership to self-medicate using another woman instead of working on what I had. To use an analogy, it was like I abandoned my beautiful Victorian house when it developed a roof leak to move into a secondhand doublewide.

I am humbly grateful for and to my wife.


Me: WH
Her: BW
Dday 7/11/13
"May you be protected from hearts that are not humble, tongues that are not wise and eyes that have forgotten how to cry."

Posts: 256 | Registered: Aug 2013
Wayflost
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Member # 41583
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I actually saw them in concert about 15 years ago, maybe 16... It's true for me as well, I totally understand their music in a different way now. So many more levels.


Me: WW
Him: BH (totalheartbreak)
Both: 30s

Posts: 488 | Registered: Dec 2013
cinnamongurl
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Member # 37879
Default  Posted: 1:37 PM, March 14th (Friday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Closer to fine has always been a favorite of mine for as long as I can remember. The line
Well darkness has a hunger that's insatiable
And lightness has a call that's hard to hear
I wrap my fear around me like a blanket
I sailed my ship of safety till I sank it, I'm crawling on your shore.
always struck a chord in me. From this song, love's recovery,
Tell all the friends who think they're so together
That these are ghosts and mirages, these thoughts of fairer weather
Though it's storming out I feel safe within the arms of love's discovery
this part really hits home right now.

It's funny how songs I've listened to my whole life have taken on such new meaning since dday.

Wayflost, I too saw them about 18 years ago. They were amazing!

(Edited because I submitted before I was finished)

[This message edited by cinnamongurl at 1:43 PM, March 14th (Friday)]


Me: 36 fWGF He: 35 BBF and my heart
Together 18 yrs. Many ddays, last one late 8/12 "Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it." Tori Amos



Posts: 514 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: home with my heart.
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