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AndreaL posted 3/14/2014 19:37 PM

I've been doing so well, but having a rough night. My WS has the kids for the weekend and I'm just so upset. I just don't understand why he had an affair. Ugh. Why couldn't he just told me was unhappy. Was this really worth it. I would have rather he 'dumped' me than be put through this hell.

hopefulmother posted 3/14/2014 19:43 PM

So sorry, take the weekend to watch some TV or go out with some girlfriends.

I wish I could tell you it will be better soon. But, it does hurt less over time. The best thing you can do...is find a hobby or mark off some bucket list items till you heal.

Newme123 posted 3/14/2014 19:52 PM

So sorry. Just know there are 42,000 other people here who know exactly how you feel right now. I'm 17mo out from dday and I still get angry about this.

[This message edited by Newme123 at 9:38 PM, March 14th (Friday)]

AndreaL posted 3/14/2014 19:57 PM

Thanks guys 😄 I just hate when the sadness hits. I prefer being angry, because the sadness brings me back to a time when I had a husband who was faithful.

RollrCoasterRydr posted 3/14/2014 20:00 PM

So sorry you're having to go through this. It is still so new to me too and I am still obsessed with thinking about it (which is why I am on this site tonight). I think it's good to have access to those who have been through it and have found that not only does life go on... happiness can still be found.
I don't know about you, but for me I have found it helps to search for songs about infidelity, listen to them and gather a youtube playlist that plays the good ones. Sure, some of them are sad, but I have to laugh at some of them... some of the lyrics remind me that I am a resilient woman and the only time out of my life that is lost is that which I choose to lose.