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AndreaL (original poster member #41522) posted at 1:37 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
I've been doing so well, but having a rough night. My WS has the kids for the weekend and I'm just so upset. I just don't understand why he had an affair. Ugh. Why couldn't he just told me was unhappy. Was this really worth it. I would have rather he 'dumped' me than be put through this hell.
Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞
Update: attempting to reconcile
hopefulmother ( member #38790) posted at 1:43 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
So sorry, take the weekend to watch some TV or go out with some girlfriends.
I wish I could tell you it will be better soon. But, it does hurt less over time. The best thing you can do...is find a hobby or mark off some bucket list items till you heal.
Me-BW 44
WH-44 zugzwang
D-day 9-4-12
Major TT 8-14
Friends since 1993
Married 2004 with 2 children
My wedding band is a symbol of hope, forgiveness, love, and grace.
Newme123 ( member #41119) posted at 1:52 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
So sorry. Just know there are 42,000 other people here who know exactly how you feel right now. I'm 17mo out from dday and I still get angry about this.
[This message edited by Newme123 at 9:38 PM, March 14th (Friday)]
Me-BS 33, him-WH 31
Dday 10-30-12 the day before Halloween
Married 10 yrs
DS-14, DD-9, DS-2, DD-5m
Currently trying to R
AndreaL (original poster member #41522) posted at 1:57 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
Thanks guys 😄 I just hate when the sadness hits. I prefer being angry, because the sadness brings me back to a time when I had a husband who was faithful.
Me:35
Hubby:38
Kids ages: 2 and 5
Married: 8 years
DDAY: Dec 1 2013
Affair: 2 months EA and PA
Status: Separted. Sigh...I wish I could forgive 😞
Update: attempting to reconcile
RollrCoasterRydr ( new member #42595) posted at 2:00 AM on Saturday, March 15th, 2014
So sorry you're having to go through this. It is still so new to me too and I am still obsessed with thinking about it (which is why I am on this site tonight). I think it's good to have access to those who have been through it and have found that not only does life go on... happiness can still be found.
I don't know about you, but for me I have found it helps to search for songs about infidelity, listen to them and gather a youtube playlist that plays the good ones. Sure, some of them are sad, but I have to laugh at some of them... some of the lyrics remind me that I am a resilient woman and the only time out of my life that is lost is that which I choose to lose.
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