I really needed this.
So, my STBXWW tried to mindfuck me by inviting me over to her new place in the middle of a divorce related email thread. This is the same STBXWW who is coming by tomorrow to FINALLY get the rest of her stuff. Thankfully the Houston SI g2g is this weekend so I will NOT be home for that (I have family who will stand in for me). Anyway, point is its a rough week.
I think I'm a fairly decent looking guy, though no one will ever mistake me for Brad Pitt or whoever. I could be taller, darker, and a little trimmer for sure. Still, while It was not a every day occurrence by any means, I did get the occasional "look" or women trying to strike up a conversations, but since the wedding ring came off, I've felt invisible again. Not that I would have ever pursued anything (there's a reason I'm the BS, not the WS), but it still felt good to be noticed from time to time.
So, I stop at a grocery store on the way home from work for a few things. I'm in line, and I innocently just happen to turn around because I felt someone reach across me to grab the divider thingy that separates people's stuff on the conveyer belt. As I turn, eyes instantly lock. She visibly blushes, kinda giggles, and I politely smile back. She then starts making very awkward small talk, but as oblivious as I've been before in my single life before I met my STBXWW, I could just "tell."
I make small talk back, pay for my groceries, smile and wish her a nice weekend. I finish loading up and return my cart to the cart return because I'm cool like that. There she is again. She smiles and blushes yet again, gives me an awkward wave. I return the gesture and head back to my car. I could feel her eyes on me the whole way.
Some may wonder why I didn't ask her out. Well, I'm still technically married, and despite my STBXWW's actions, I honor my vows even if we're done. Also, I can't fathom putting myself there yet. Still, this woman wasn't exactly hard on the eyes, I saw no ring, and she came on to me. If nothing else, it put a smile on my face and a little pep in my step in what has otherwise been a rough week. Hope others here keep the faith alive - if good looking women hit on me, anything can happen