Although DDay was back on Jan 7th, I found my husbands work cell phone this evening with text messages to the OW. There were a lot of I love yous, hearts and scheduling times to meet.
I told the kids to go to their rooms and told him it was over. Took all his clothes in garbage bags and put them in his car, gave him my wedding dress and wedding ring as well. He stuck around for several hours looking morose and giving me excuses but I just told him, "I don't care anymore. It doesn't matter. We are done. I am done." I finally got him to leave.
After lots TT since DDay I pushed him to let me know anything else since it doesn't matter at this point. He revealed to me that he had not just been talking(no surprise thanx to SI.com) and has been having sex about 2 x per week since he told me about the affair. Oh, and last but not least, he has been getting massages with a happy endings before the A for the past 5 years.
I told him I will be filing on monday and that I would be transferring 50% of our money to my account so it's not a surprise. Did it as soon as he left the house tonight.
I also spoke with a close friend of his that is a manager where he works to verify what his company policy is toward dating in the work place. This was all with my WS present. No problem if it is not a manager subordinate relationship. I sent an email and BCCed my WS's manager, HR, the AP and my husband that he is having an affair.
Monday I plan to file if I can get in to see the attorney.
I am scared of what is to come but relieved to be off the fence. Glad I finally have a direction. Wondering how I am going to remain strong enough to get through the ordeal of divorce. What should I expect now? Besides the fall out from this evening what happens once the dust settles and we start traveling down the road toward D? He asked for a separation but I remained firm. What's the point? It would just drag on his affair.