Oh I love this clarification in the way the question is asked.
I think I have a sort of lingering after effect type of love, absolutely for what was and for the part of him that I feel he betrayed when he betrayed me. If that makes sense. And I still wish that part of him well.
But also just I'm not detached enough and am still too foggy/hurt to be out of the love I used to have and to be able to leave it in the past where it belongs. Because there are NO qualities he has shown recently that I have active love for.
It's hard to explain--there's love that persists but I know it is not earned or related to who he is. I think it's just part of figuring out the disconnect between what I thought was true and what was true. It still hasn't been able to sink in. There is such a gap between what I saw and believed and the actual full picture that my ability to compute and reconcile the new info is lacking.
But I think your take on not loving him anymore is absolutely the right one.