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Tripletrouble posted 3/15/2014 13:27 PM

I kind of regret not changing my last name at the time of divorce. How hard is it to go back and do after the fact? Anyone know?

Williesmom posted 3/15/2014 13:35 PM

I did mine 2 years after the D was final. In my state (Pa), it just is filing 1 form. The real pain is all of the credit cards, etc.

I changed my name 4 years ago, and just got my notary commission in my new name. My passport is still in y married name. Yikes.

I.will.survive posted 3/15/2014 21:56 PM

I changed my name during the divorce, but it's not a big deal to do it afterwards. Just a filing fee and some paperwork around here.

The REAL pain is changing the bazillion things you have your married name on!

I feel like 2 people. So much stuff still comes in my married name, one year later. Some of those things I realize I didn't think to change.

Eh, whatever. My important stuff has the right name on it and I feel like I have the right name.

Good luck!!

Bluebird26 posted 3/15/2014 22:04 PM

It's a pain to be in the middle with your name different all over the place, once it's all done though it is much easier. I have never regretted changing my name back, it was like releasing myself from that marriage hell.

BAB61 posted 3/16/2014 00:45 AM

I am thinking about this....getting feedback from my kids, they are ok with either. I have so much stuff that would need changed...ugh....

Ellejay posted 3/17/2014 07:09 AM

I always thought I would never bother going back to my maiden name if anything ever happened between Sir Shagalot and I because I knew it would be a pain in the neck to change it. However, after the total disrespect he showed to me coupled with the sleaziness of his behaviour, there was no way that I wanted to live out the rest of my days with his family name attached to mine.

It has been time consuming and annoying but worth every minute of inconvenience to finally get something of myself back.


EJ

SBB posted 3/17/2014 07:14 AM

It has been time consuming and annoying but worth every minute of inconvenience to finally get something of myself back.

THIS. I personally would not have felt free until I had my own name back. All is right with the universe.

sparkysable posted 3/17/2014 08:05 AM

I personally would not have felt free until I had my own name back.
I totally agree! The feeling when I had my own name back was AMAZING! I felt like myself again. I HATED it during the divorce before it was final when I still had to be referred to as XWH's last name.

I thought it was easy. Final decree in hand, a trip to the social security office, a trip to the dmv, and then after that just changing utilities, credit card & bank accounts, shoppers club accounts, and other little stuff. The only thing that cost me was my passport, I believe it was over $100 to change it.

[This message edited by sparkysable at 8:09 AM, March 17th (Monday)]

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