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Topic: Tell the other woman's spouse?

justlikethat
42768
Member # 42768

Posted: 2:50 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014

Not sure if my husband physically cheated on me or not. He did have an emotional affair with a woman who lives on the other side of the country. He sent he flowers last year. Due to this and his history of lies, we a getting divorced. I looked her up on facebook, she seemed to be "happily" married at the time. I don't believe she is married anymore but I am not sure. Should I fill her husband/exhusband in on what I know?

Posts: 43 | Registered: Mar 2014

Gemini71
♀ 40115
Member # 40115

Posted: 2:54 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014

Yep. He deserves the truth.

One day
I'm gonna forget your name,
And one sweet day,
you're gonna drown in my lost pain. - "Sweet Sacrifice" by Evanescence

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Posts: 3389 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA

hope2014
♀ 42707
Member # 42707

Posted: 8:06 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014

You should tell her H. But consider your timing, especially if you may be the only one who could tell the OH. I am in a very similar situation in that my H is having an EA (that is beginning to become physical or so he claims). I've located her H. My H agreed to move out of the house (which he has done) and we are amicably negotiating our divorce. While I want to and eventually will tell her H, I will probably not do so until the papers are signed. I don't want to unnecessarily poke the bear and make the current situation any worse.

Me - BS; 36
Him - WH; 35
Married - 16 years
2 Kids - Ages 3 and 6
DDay - 2/26/14

Posts: 55 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio

sparkysable
♀ 3703
Member # 3703

Posted: 12:12 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

He has a right to know. I wish someone had told me instead of saying it "wasn't their business". Well, it was mine, and I didn't like that people knew what was going on in MY LIFE and didn't feel that I needed to know what was going on in my own life.

If you need help with contact info, send me a pm.

BW - 40
DD - 7 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 5389 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY

2goodannie
♀ 41967
Member # 41967

Posted: 7:53 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

I am thinking about doing this too. In the beginning, I wanted to contact her spouse to cause all the pain that she has caused my family. But now that it has been over 5 months, I really want to do it, because he deserves to know the truth.

How to do it and what to say??

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest

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