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User Topic: Tell the other woman's spouse?
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Default  Posted: 2:50 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Not sure if my husband physically cheated on me or not. He did have an emotional affair with a woman who lives on the other side of the country. He sent he flowers last year. Due to this and his history of lies, we a getting divorced. I looked her up on facebook, she seemed to be "happily" married at the time. I don't believe she is married anymore but I am not sure. Should I fill her husband/exhusband in on what I know?

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Default  Posted: 2:54 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yep. He deserves the truth.

"Better not give in to it. It takes ten times as long to put yourself back together as it does to fall apart.
― Suzanne Collins, Mockingjay

Double Betrayal D-Day 7/26/2013
Divorced 11/18/2014

Posts: 2695 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: Illinois, USA
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, March 15th (Saturday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You should tell her H. But consider your timing, especially if you may be the only one who could tell the OH. I am in a very similar situation in that my H is having an EA (that is beginning to become physical or so he claims). I've located her H. My H agreed to move out of the house (which he has done) and we are amicably negotiating our divorce. While I want to and eventually will tell her H, I will probably not do so until the papers are signed. I don't want to unnecessarily poke the bear and make the current situation any worse.

Me - BS; 36
Him - WH; 35
Married - 16 years
2 Kids - Ages 3 and 6
DDay - 2/26/14

Posts: 55 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: Ohio
♀ 3703
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Default  Posted: 12:12 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

He has a right to know. I wish someone had told me instead of saying it "wasn't their business". Well, it was mine, and I didn't like that people knew what was going on in MY LIFE and didn't feel that I needed to know what was going on in my own life.

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BW - 39
DD - 6 years old
D-day OW#1 2/2004;D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.

Posts: 4801 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
♀ 41967
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Default  Posted: 7:53 AM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am thinking about doing this too. In the beginning, I wanted to contact her spouse to cause all the pain that she has caused my family. But now that it has been over 5 months, I really want to do it, because he deserves to know the truth.

How to do it and what to say??

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Midwest
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