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Not sure if my husband physically cheated on me or not. He did have an emotional affair with a woman who lives on the other side of the country. He sent he flowers last year. Due to this and his history of lies, we a getting divorced. I looked her up on facebook, she seemed to be "happily" married at the time. I don't believe she is married anymore but I am not sure. Should I fill her husband/exhusband in on what I know?

Yep. He deserves the truth.

You should tell her H. But consider your timing, especially if you may be the only one who could tell the OH. I am in a very similar situation in that my H is having an EA (that is beginning to become physical or so he claims). I've located her H. My H agreed to move out of the house (which he has done) and we are amicably negotiating our divorce. While I want to and eventually will tell her H, I will probably not do so until the papers are signed. I don't want to unnecessarily poke the bear and make the current situation any worse.

He has a right to know. I wish someone had told me instead of saying it "wasn't their business". Well, it was mine, and I didn't like that people knew what was going on in MY LIFE and didn't feel that I needed to know what was going on in my own life.

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I am thinking about doing this too. In the beginning, I wanted to contact her spouse to cause all the pain that she has caused my family. But now that it has been over 5 months, I really want to do it, because he deserves to know the truth.

How to do it and what to say??