Aging sucks! I mean after I turned 40 years old, everything seems to be going down hill. Yuck! Saggy skin and breasts, wrinkles, poor eye sight, etc. What gives? Why weren't we warned it would happen so suddenly? I have lady arm wings, gosh darn it! Ugh!
What brought about this post? Well, my son took a photo of me today. I couldn't believe how much I have aged! I'm starting to resemble my mother (no offense, mom)!
So, ladies and gentlemen, what do you do to make yourself feel better??
I understand everyone is getting older. Yes, I do. But, how are we suppose to find a mate looking old and haggard?
I'm trying to laugh my way out of this but it truly is the pits.
I'm seeking advice from those 40 and over. Those who are younger haven't really a clue for what's around the bend for them. Sorry young'uns! But, sadly you'll understand one day.
Any suggestion or sage advice?
Try this:
http://www.playbuzz.com/jennifers/what-kind-of-old-person-will-you-be
This is me:
The "80 years young" You'll stay as active as an 18 year old! You will do lots of things you barely have the energy to do now, like dancing and going to the gym at 5 am. You have your regular bingo night, and you drink like an Irish man at his prime.
PS: I'm 59 and 1/2
[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 8:15 PM, March 15th (Saturday)]
..taking care of yourself.. exercise, diet, sleep and having a positive attitude about your life, will keep you young.
..while my breasts and chin aren't sagging(yet) I still have plenty of aches and pains (at almost 67) my hair is gray and missing in spots..
..at 40..crap, you're still a young'un and i'd trade your age for mine in a heartbeat.
..enjoy being 40.. in the BIG picture, you are in your prime!
..age is only a number and 40 is still a little one!
smy
Change a few small things and you will notice a difference. Get facial products and hair products for older people (yup...they exist), better diet and omega 3 pills are great and if you can afford it chemical peels do help with the thickening skin on your face.
All the other posters are right about 40 still feeling as though we are in our prime but in today's society it is hard not to obsess about getting older. I have been lucky and have enjoyed my 40's way more than my 30's. More time for myself, better financially and of course no EX...phishing me all the time.
But you know, I kind of have a sense of adventure about it, it's kind of like, "whoa! who knew!"
I remember a cool elderly relative of mine talking about still feeling the same way inside but looking in the mirror and thinking, "who IS that old lady??" I guess every generation goes through it.
I feel better by continuing to learn, marveling at the changes, and trying to stay active and healthy. I want to be the old lady with the twinkle in her eye and a smile, assuming I rack up enough years. I think the people who cling desperately to youth and 'looking young' are the ones who wind up kind of miserable...'cause let's face it, it's going to be a losing battle. IMO, the ideal thing is to live your best life at whatever age.
"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks
The End!
I'm with karma. It's just a big bag of suck. (but that did make me laugh)
On my 40th I bought some beer and I was carded! At a place that I am usually not carded so I count it as a "legitimate" card and not a "we card everyone even if you are 100" card.
That was the last time I was ever legitimately carded. sigh
I am now 48 and I do not awake with a new pain everyday, but it is not unusual for me to awake with some new pain, especially in my feet. My feet were great (I thought) until about 5 years ago. That is when I realized that all those cute shoes in my 20's with no support caused damage I did not even realize. sigh
And now the gray. At first I plucked, but then I gave up because the grays outnumbered me.
And the winkles under my eyes. Nothing helps that.
And the worst part is that I know that I probably have 30+ more years of this and it will only get worse. sigh
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
One major thing for me is that I eat well. I don't mean caviar and steak on a daily basis. I don't eat a lot of processed food. I make most things from scratch. I'm often told I look half my age (ha!). I don't agree, but I'll take the compliment. I don't wear makeup, but I moisturize my skin every single day.
Another thing I think keeps me young is my kids and husband. Hubby is 5yrs older, but we laugh all the time and laughter makes you feel good!
SorryInSac (STBX WH#2) - 47. DDay 7/12/14 Married 4, together 7yrs total Status - F that guy.
XWH#1 (serial cheater, 12+ OW) - Legally married 18yrs
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I'll be 42 in a couple of months
It's just the last year or two. I hit 40 easily, but the last 1-2 years seems like I have aged at a super-fast rate.
I can't explain it.
My husband is 48 and looks 30, he seems to be going backwards, rat bastard.
Now that I have figured out my FOO and have a ton of healing under my belt I can never have another baby.
Someone screwed this shit up. Allowing us to have kids when we are the most screwed up and clueless....we age, get some wisdom and it's taken off the table.
Who started this vent anyways? Man I am just pissed now, grrrrrr
It's so unfair that H gets these specks of grays in his hair and it makes him look more handsome. Mine just make me look like an old hag .
It's more about where the hell is the time going?
When I was younger time seemed to be endless. Now it moves so fast and every time I turn around one of my kids looks or is much older. This week everyone in my family has a birthday. I will have 10 and 17 year old kids. When the heck did THAT happen?
Now at 54, I might have more wrinkles. I assume this is true because I can't see a damn thing. Certainly there are sagging body parts. I believe I can feel my butt cheeks sitting on the back of my knees!
That said I feel beautiful because when I smile it travels all the way up to my eyes. When I laugh it is real. I can look people in the eye when talking and feel connected to those around me. I notice and enjoy the small things like the Robin sitting in the tree outside my bedroom window.
Okay I am getting too sappy even for me. Yes it sucks to get older but damn I am so much happier.
