She texted him immediately saying she would never talk to him ever again. He showed that text to me all proud that he had broken contact with her for me and took credit for it. Only I knew the truth and it was awesome.
What have you done you aren't proud of or that you are proud of. I need a smile tonight,
Why do you see this as the worst thing you ever did?
In my eyes if a woman sends a man semi naked pictures of herself knowing he's not available then she's put herself out there already! The fact she did so on a work e mail just makes it worse too. Surely that's a sackable offence right there?
Worst thing I did? Not filing a complaint against OW at her workplace so she could be fired! Sex in a work environment on company time is just plain wrong.... unless you're a working girl!
I did text an ally of the A after from FWH's mobile pretending to be him saying what a mistake the A was and going into graphic detail about the OW in as nasty a way I could think of knowing full well she'd get to read that!
Do I think that's the worst thing I ever did? No way! Wearing socks with stilettos is a far worse 'crime' in my eyes (I only did it once but never again!)
Bobby socks can look quite adorable with heels. Think Dorothy from the Wizard of Oz. Now, if they were men's tube socks...yeah, that is the worst thing you've ever done. The horror!
See- I said it was bad!
The worst thing I ever did was when my fws cheated on me with these 2 girls that were friends. One of them knew the other one was messing with him, the other one didnt. So I told the one that didnt know that her friend was messing with him too. They had been best friends since elementary school. Needless to say they dont even talk anymore! When I told her about her friend, she went and told her friends boyfriend of 4 years and they also broke up.
He left within a half hour of me finding that text.
I tripped over his shoe, a story in itself.
Something clicked in me.
That shoe went out the door, then every article of clothing, photo of him, paperwork, everything, out the front door into the snow. A massive pile of his crap.
I then texted him to come get his stuff off the front lawn and to bring garbage bags.
Then, I went on facebook, his page, posted a recent picture of the two of us with a post that seemed to come from him.
"I am scum. I cheated on my wife and left her. Then I pretended to work on our marriage and go to therapy with her. I lied. I cheated again with a skank. I should be ostracized for my evil behavior."
Then, I friended all of his contacts, he is an umpire and very concerned with his image with these men.
Immature? Very. It sure did make me feel better. Especially when he asked me if I wanted to rent a billboard. I replied, sure if you will pay for it!
It didn't end there, he was emailing and texting about how sorry he was, I love you, all a bunch of lies. I was able to read all his texts on the computer. He did not know this.
He was texting new ow, really obscene and graphic and also texting another woman on Match. All while he was proclaiming his remorse and love.
I went into his Match account, guessed his password and change it to looking for men. Then I emailed verbatim everything that he said to ow#2.
His response? "I am not with you anymore, I can say whatever I want to whoever I want".
What an ass.
I suppose that I was just getting into my anger phase and it hit all at once. Not a good time for him to cheat again.
Am I ashamed? NO.
My 29 year old son saw the pile on the front lawn. "I am not too happy with you for doing that", my response, "people have killed for less", he laughed and said, "yeah, I guess you have a point, he is a scumbag".
It did feel good to get that anger out. It hurt his facade and that is where his weak spot is, the false image.
Now, on to irrelevance.
I would now like to be known as Can!
dday October 21,2012 dday December 20, 2013 wh deleted I attempted R, he was a lie
Divorced!
I was horrible. I ruined everything I could for the OW. She really shouldn't have slept with a good friends husband.
First I called her almost xH and told him what a skank she was and that he should file for custody of the 2yo in the divorce, and HE DID!
Then My WH and i were subpeoned to testify in the custody hearing. I told that judge that she was having sex with my H ( her 10 yo's best friends dad) in the hall across from his room at 8 pm. He had to hear it!
She lost custody. Only gets to see her kid 1st 3rd and 5th.
THEN, I mailed a letter to her place of a work, a little doctors office, and told all the women there that they better watch their husbands because she would screw them. And I put in lots of details so they would know it was true. The OW walked out of work that day, and never came back. Didn't even give 2 weeks notice. LOL
I also told my pastor, all our homeschool friends, and everyone confronted her and told her to stay away from our family. She was run out of town. It was a little town. She sold her house and moved within a month of DDAY. She later said that she couldn't even go to the grocery store because people were staring at her like she had the Scarlett A on her chest. Well, if the letter fits, wear it!
So,she lost. 1. Her kid 2. Her home 3. Her friends 4. Her job
I'm a horrible person for being so revengeful. But she is remarried now. Unhappily, I've heard. And it has crossed my mind to befriend her new husband and have an A with him. But I won't do it.
When I run into people in our community--without kids--and they ask me how I'm doing I tell the truth. If it is a good day, I'll tell them why, if it is a bad day, I'll let them know that too. Not sweeping it under the rug this time. Nope. I've told everyone that doesn't have kids around them *exactly* what is going on. It has been very healing to me. And, I've found lots and lots of support.
OW found out about it because someone contacted her X was soo mad. He called up up and was ranting at me and all I wold say was "Why would I do that?" The dumbass could not answer that simple question. And he was also pissed because the site where I posted would not cooperate except to take the message down.
You would think that would be enough to stop the invasion into my life, but it was not. I kept getting mail and phone calls for her. So the next time I sent her a letter with the names and addresses of everyone in her community that I would contact if I ever go another piece of mail for her. THAT finally stopped the invasion.
She changed her number and still has no idea it was us. The weird thing is, it was HIS idea.
The city she works in is always in the news for the highest STD rates in our state. . .
I hope she dreads flowers on Valentine's Day forever. Ho.
eta: and she was sleeping with not only her now xh but at least (!!) one other person, and I have no doubt there were more. Double
[This message edited by PippaPeach6 at 3:45 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
Honey Badger don't care. - Randall
Honestly, it wasn't balls...it was white hot blinding rage!
I never knew that I could feel such anger, it was a bit shocking for me.
After the horrific mind games, I just lost it. It was a flash of clarity.
He had been blaming me for months for not moving forward, being stuck, not seeing what he was doing.
Just that, regardless of everything else, the fact that he was deliberately gaslighting me just became so clear in that instant that I saw the text from ow#2.
I think I could claim temporary insanity!
Honestly, I am the calmest, most rational person, a new side I never knew existed!
Now, it makes me laugh. He deserved every bit and so very much more.
2. I reported her behavior on company time using company resources (cell, land line, and expense account) to her employer.
3. I also informed her employer that she was a regular pot smoker and that they might want to random drug test her.
#2 & #3 got her terminated from a near 6 figure a year job and the packet I sent to the potential employer resulted in her not being hired.
Now, after all that she had the nerve to threaten to sue me and since I am in an alienation of affection state, I invited her to do just that so I could sue her ass right back. I also reminded her that I still had about 15 naked pictures she sent to my husband and I was just waiting for a reason to mail those out as well as use them as Exhibits X, Y, & Z.
I also informed her that I did all that out of irritation with her whorish ways but if she kept effing with me, I would show her what I was really capable of when I'm angry.
eta: I know that revenge is not encouraged or condoned on SI. Having said that, I don't consider this revenge - I consider it karmic consequences.
[This message edited by Chicky at 7:19 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
I changed his match.com profile by guessing his password and also emailed all of the women he'd been in touch with to let them know the truth about him.
I never considered reconciliation with my ex. The way I found about about his cheating was when a stripper/prostitute called me to complain about him! I was more than shocked. The "persona" my ex had, which I found was fake, was that of a very nice and sincere man.
Pretty sure my ex is a sociopath. I was very happy to get away from him, once I knew the truth about him.
FOW had sent my FWH about a dozen little videos (about 30-45seconds each) of herself masturbating...well, I guess that's what she called it- pretty damn lame actions and some very cheesey 'moaning'...anyway, when I found said videos and numerous naked pics I was beyond enraged- homicidal may more accurately describe how I was feeling at that moment. A little backstory to these videos: before she sent them, she made FWH promise that he would delete each and every one as soon as he watched them (she's a teacher so I assume she did not want them getting out). So of course, being the stand up and honest man that he was, he agreed to delete them but then kept them!!! Score one huge one for me!!! ...after I calmed down, my first instinct was to spread the love. So, I drafted a very angry, very detailed email outing her 6+ month affair with my still very married husband. I emailed it to her and copied her sisters and her father on it (who by the way is a serial cheater and on wife number five at the mature age of 70). I also imbedded a huge picture of her hoo-ha and attached a handful of her self-made pornos I later found out that the videos were indeed viewed by all
I figure that if she didn't want her privates viewed by the public, or her family for that matter, then she shouldn't have sent them to MY husband!
ETA: it is extremely obvious that the video is of her- besides the money shots, there is very clear footage of her bedroom and her raspy voice is unmistakable
[This message edited by MoonLitSmile at 8:26 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
Her- 45, a self-centered bitch in Naples, FL concerned with no one but herself
DDay- July 13, 2013
Back off man- I'm a scientist! ~ Dr. Peter Venkman
http://www.timesleader.com/news/news/1249893/Nude-photo-suspect-in-alleged-scuffle-with-TV-reporter
Of course, she made it worse by slugging a reporter, but still, she wouldn't have been at the courthouse in the first place if she hadn't posted OW's photos on Facebook...
But also: Me: WH, 51 Her: BW, 51 D-day: 12/27/2013 (about A that happened 14-15 years ago w/coworker)
