On dday#2, I found a text from new ow. We were in MC and IC and holy crap! I never felt such total rage in my life, never knew I could be that angry.
He left within a half hour of me finding that text.
I tripped over his shoe, a story in itself.
Something clicked in me.
That shoe went out the door, then every article of clothing, photo of him, paperwork, everything, out the front door into the snow. A massive pile of his crap.
I then texted him to come get his stuff off the front lawn and to bring garbage bags.
Then, I went on facebook, his page, posted a recent picture of the two of us with a post that seemed to come from him.
"I am scum. I cheated on my wife and left her. Then I pretended to work on our marriage and go to therapy with her. I lied. I cheated again with a skank. I should be ostracized for my evil behavior."
Then, I friended all of his contacts, he is an umpire and very concerned with his image with these men.
Immature? Very. It sure did make me feel better. Especially when he asked me if I wanted to rent a billboard. I replied, sure if you will pay for it!
It didn't end there, he was emailing and texting about how sorry he was, I love you, all a bunch of lies. I was able to read all his texts on the computer. He did not know this.
He was texting new ow, really obscene and graphic and also texting another woman on Match. All while he was proclaiming his remorse and love.
I went into his Match account, guessed his password and change it to looking for men. Then I emailed verbatim everything that he said to ow#2.
His response? "I am not with you anymore, I can say whatever I want to whoever I want".
What an ass.
I suppose that I was just getting into my anger phase and it hit all at once. Not a good time for him to cheat again.
Am I ashamed? NO.
My 29 year old son saw the pile on the front lawn. "I am not too happy with you for doing that", my response, "people have killed for less", he laughed and said, "yeah, I guess you have a point, he is a scumbag".
It did feel good to get that anger out. It hurt his facade and that is where his weak spot is, the false image.
Now, on to irrelevance.