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click4it (original poster member #209) posted at 10:17 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Its been a while since I've been here. Since I'm one of the oldest members here, that's probably a good thing! 
I thought I'd pop in to say hello and share my new beginning (non-dating wise).
I've started a new beginning last October at the age of 41 that has been really life changing for me. It took me 12 years to finally start a new beginning that is connecting me with people, working on healing old hurts and learning out to be a more confident counselor at my work.
I joined a 10 month training that is so terrific, that I hate for it to end. At first I was so nervous and didnt' think I would be able to handle it (its one weekend a month) because its deep emotional work where we practice learning new skills on others in the group.
For the first time in several years, I am ALIVE again. I am meeting new people in real life and becoming more in tune with my feelings. I'm like a wide eyed child learning to walk and talk all over again.
I still have my down days, where I feel like giving up on all this work. I feel lonely because I have yet to find a partner to share my life with.
But the good news is that the bad days are less and I have hardly any time to be depressed anymore!
I am really keeping my fingers crossed that this new beginning will be the start of opening up more new beginnings.
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
Bluebird26 ( member #36445) posted at 10:59 AM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hi Click 
So glad you are enjoying your NB.
TFS it's so nice to hear good stories here.
Me: BW
Best thing I gained in my divorce - my freedom.
Life's good.
thebighurt ( member #34722) posted at 12:18 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hi Clicky! Nice to see you here. Cheers to a new beginning for you! SI Mojo for more new things opening up for you.
Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 2:58 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 3:06 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hi, clicky! Thanks so much for the update.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
gahurts ( member #33699) posted at 3:54 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Good to hear from you Click4it. I always enjoyed reading your threads. Glad things are going so well for you.
"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi
"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie
wildbananas ( member #10552) posted at 3:57 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hi clickie! Glad to hear from you and happy that things are going so well! 
Travel light, live light, spread the light, be the light. ~ Yogi Bhajan
persevere ( member #31468) posted at 4:30 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hey click! What a great update! So happy for you! I'd love to hear more about this program - it sounds amazing!
DDay:2011
Status: D 2011
Remarried to a kind and wonderful man - 2017
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K.
Dreamboat ( member #10506) posted at 4:30 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Clicky, I am so happy for you!!! YOu deserve to be happy
And it's hard to dance with a devil on your back
So shake him off
-- Shake It Out, Florence And The Machine
Sad in AZ ( member #24239) posted at 4:49 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
This is such good news, Click! It warms my heart.
You'll have to tell us about this wonderful program sometime.
You are important and you matter. Your feelings matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters. Your life matters. Always.
Me: FBS (no longer betrayed nor a spouse)-63
D-day: 2007 (two years before finding SI)
S: 6/2010; D: 3/2011
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:07 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Hi, honey! 
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
risingfromashes ( member #3903) posted at 5:33 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Great to see this update! Glad you are doing so well.
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 6:24 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
Love it, clicks.
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
caregiver9000 ( member #28622) posted at 6:42 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
I love seeing familiar names for positive updates!!!
HI clicky!!
Me: fortysomething, independent, happy,
XH "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
two kids, teens. Old enough I am truly NO CONTACT w/ NPD zebraduck
S 5/2010
D 12/2012
little turtle ( member #15584) posted at 6:47 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
yay!!! I've been waiting for an update! I'm so happy to hear/read that things are going well. (((click))) I've missed you!
Failure is success if we learn from it.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 8:14 PM on Sunday, March 16th, 2014
click4it (original poster member #209) posted at 6:55 AM on Monday, March 17th, 2014
thanks everyone!
The training I'm in is for people are would like to be counselors. Its not a degree program, but a condensed version of many different theories and practices with a lot of hands on practice on-site. People with all kinds of backgrounds join - some even just for personal growth. Afterall, you get 10 months of free counseling by many different people in the program as we are all practicing on each other.
What I like about it is the openness of it all...sort of like a "hippy dippy" crowd, where everyone hugs and snuggles all the time. People are willing to open up and share their vulnerabilities and be raw at times.
Its pretty deep and rewarding.
Here is the website if anyone wants to check it out. We got people coming from all over the US to come to these trainings.
http://www.interchangecounseling.com/
all I can say is that its been an amazing journey...and I wish it were 10 more months!
Me: 45
Two boys: 20 and 17
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01
Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?
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