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DragonBunker posted 3/16/2014 05:52 AM

Recently, I have been speaking to some people about my ex, people that have been talking to him in a legal capacity with regards to the children. Contact is a no no as far as I am concerned.

Anyway, one guy came to ask me a few questions and said he had met my ex and found him to be "an extremely odd fellow" and said he was compliant to the point of it being absolutely ridiculous in the few hours he was with him and also that he had stated quite coldly and matter of fact that he was "very emotionally manipulative."

Why do you say that to someone unless you're hoping to use that to manipulate them in some way?? Also, the man that came to see me said he absolutely agreed with that based on what I had told him and the various results of personality tests he had had done. Personality tests? Why was this information not shared with me since I have to contest contact? Apparently these personality tests showed someone who is emotionally manipulative to the extreme and very skilled at it, devoid of empathy, narcissistic and from what he was saying, at the very least a borderline psychopath. Yay! And I should have to potentially defend my right to keep my children away from this man? What the hell?!

Random thoughts posted 3/16/2014 10:00 AM

Do you think your ex sent this person your way as a fishing expedition to you against you?

If they were speaking to him in a legal capacity and then came to you, is that not a breach of contract or something?

I hope you didn't engage with this person by giving him an opinion of your ex.

CheshCat posted 3/16/2014 12:12 PM

Just as a heads up...not knowing your back story:

I spent over 40k PROVING my ex to be abusive in court. 11 restraining orders level of abusive.

He has 50% custody.

All proving the abuse (and sociopathy ii) did?
He had to take a weekend seminar on parenting.

Of course, things vary state by state... But in many states... If dad wants custody at all, it doesn't matter if they're putting your children in the hospital once a month. They want it, they got it.

DragonBunker posted 3/16/2014 12:21 PM

Oh, no- he definitely won't have sent him. I don't want to say too much because details can give away my anonymity and be referenced on a search engine. But the legal people are THE legal people. The man that came is the head of a large division and anything I say to him is confidential unless it needs to be used later on, with my consent. To support me, not the ex. And my ex should not legally have contact with anybody's children or one on one contact with females. Things I know about him and experiences that he has subjected me to are valuable information for the legal people who need to build up a strong file to submit. I hope that wasn't too cryptic and made sense?