They all minimize in the beginning, my WH went from a few weeks of a PA(physical affair) to a year long very involved affair. He said at the beginning he told a little because he thought at least that is confessing, she doesn't need to know every detail. He thought confessing to a kiss was the same as confessing to a year if sex.
Read in the healing library in the upper left corner (yellow box) it is a gold mine of information. Make sure you take care of yourself physically.
I am sorry to say that your roller coaster ride is just beginning. Post here often and get all the support you need from here. You should also set up some real life support, do you have a close friend or family member you can talk to about this?
One last thing, probably the most important thing, no matter what he says none of the A (affair) is your fault, he don't do it because his marriage was bad or because you were mean, he did it because something is broken in him. Only he can fix himself.
(((Hugs))) to you, sorry you going through this.I am so disappointed when a liar's pants don't actually start on fire.
BS me 41
WH 42 his whore was my friend
Married 24 years
Finally finding R?
3 kids 3 grand kids
DDay 1 -Jan 2 2014
DDay 2 -Feb 20 2014 A went underground fo