I used to be walking on eggshells because of the explosive temper. Eventually, those men and women will physically hurt someone. Usually their significant other. I know this for a painful fact. And they're always so sorry and it will never happen again. Until next time.
I'm sorry but I can't see it changing for you. This is who he is. And being away from that control (whether you see it or not, you're under some measure of control here) will be good for you. I echo the previous poster- maybe it is time to throw in the towel.