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Topic: Pain equals a call for change

Aceofbase
♂ 42458
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Posted: 2:59 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

I know this mostly true, but isn't it also true that change equals pain?
Thoughts?

DD: 12/18/2013
Status: R

Happiness is a choice.

Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2014 | From: USA

karmahappens
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Member # 35846

Posted: 3:06 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

Change may be painful initially, but the long term benefits far outweigh the bad.

To not make these changes for your own good leave you in a position of constantly cycling through the same pain.

IMO it is better to walk through the pain, heal, and find a better place on the other side.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom”
Anaïs Nin
Me: 45
Him: 47
Dday 8/2007
We have R'd

Posts: 3892 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Massachusetts

rachelc
♀ 30314
Member # 30314

Posted: 3:22 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

I don't know. It's painful when someone you love dies yet do you have to change? Just feeling it and allowing yourself to grieve maybe?

his Dday: 2/10 but TT until 7/11
my Ddays: 1/12, 4/12 broken NC 12/12

me (WW/BS): 48
him: (BS/WH)52
4 kiddos in mid 20's

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.”

Posts: 6087 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Midwest

ChinaCat
♀ 42797
Member # 42797

Posted: 4:11 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

Change can be a great thing. I did not have any peers regarding my WH, until I found this group. Just searching for a group of this nature was going out on a limb. I have only been here a short time, but wow! I wish I had found this group so much earlier. I was so scared to open up, but changing and challenging my fear is a good thing for me.

"Every time I stay out late; every time I sleep in; every time I miss a workout; every time I don't give 100% - I make it that much easier for him to beat me!"
Me: BS & Beautiful!

Posts: 80 | Registered: Mar 2014 | From: USA

norabird
♀ 42092
Member # 42092

Posted: 9:27 PM, March 16th (Sunday), 2014

I think this is why we have the term 'growing pains'. Transitions of all types can be hard but if we are brave and face them the growth will be to our benefit.

Sit. Feast on your life.

Posts: 4261 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: NYC

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