Have any of your WSs looked up the OP on the internet? Would you still consider yourself on the path to reconciliation?
NC means no contact, no in-person contact and no-ruminating about the affair/stalking online contact.
I find it hard to believe he needed to see a picture of her to know how he feels about her.
I think your dday being so recent it isn't abnormal, but until she is gone from his life in every sense of the word R is nearly impossible.
[This message edited by karmahappens at 4:02 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
Have any of your WSs looked up the OP on the internet?
If he did and found a picture then he is a far better investigator than I am.
Would you still consider yourself on the path to reconciliation?
If I thought, or learned, that my WH had a need to seek MOW out in any way shape or form then I would do as I told him...send him packing. I would probably drive him to her house and drop him off.
But that's me...A woman of my word and he completely understands that.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
I agree Karmahappens (I don't know how to put other quotes in this.. I can't figure it out)
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Like I said, he is early out so broken NC happens, doeesn't mean you are doomed....means his head hasn't been completely removed from his ass.
Doing something wrong and then telling you he did it does NOT make the action less wrong.
Start to heal you, have you got your own IC? You don't have to have all the answers today...but you do have to start taking baby steps to reclaiming your life. He can either step up and follow or get left behind.
Take care of and be true to you.
[This message edited by karmahappens at 4:35 PM, March 16th (Sunday)]
With that being said, I would be very pissed off that he looked her up online. That is a sign that he is still curious about her and thinking about her. I couldn't handle that and it would take me back to DDay all over again.
To answer your question, my WH has not looked up the desperate HO on the internet. If he did, there would be hell to pay!
"Your value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your worth." -Unknown Wise Person
"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."
As far as the modelling thing -- you're either a model, in which case your agent handles your bookings, or you're a wannabe. She sounds like a wannabe looking for attention. Sad and pathetic.
Don't take this the wrong way, a lot of guys find petite women attractive. Cheating has nothing to do with looks. In my case WW cheated way down.
Stay strong and yes, you should be pissed off. Your WH? WTF? He needs to give her up already and focus on his family.
You need to be very wary, this is definitely wayward thinking on his part. I would recommend a keylogger on his computer, and phone, a VAR in his car, and a GPS unit on it. Don't tell him, just do it, and sit back and wait. But be ready to carry through with consequences.