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Brandon808 posted 3/16/2014 21:08 PM

I recently posted about my issues with feelings of anxiety and uncertainty. Also, I posted some time ago about a new job I was taking. It seemed like a good opportunity and the job was strictly working from home. I literally am the only employee for this company in the entire state. There have been other issues and stresses with the job but nothing that I couldn't work through or deal with before. However, the sense of total isolation that has developed over time working 100% from home has amplified all of it. My previous employer doesn't have any openings for me but I spoke to a lead earlier tonight and it looks promising. The program manager asked to complete the online application to, in his words, "move the process forward". I guess that's a good sign? I'm hoping so anyway. This new job would be primarily from home but not 100%. I'd have colleagues locally and some travel and opportunities to interact more directly with the team. Probably no difference in money but their benefits seem to be better. More importantly I think the work and the team is a better fit for me.

What I've learned about myself is that for a basically introverted guy I prefer being around people.

It also occurs to me that if I weren't living alone I can't say with absolute certainty I would be having these issues. So being relationship-alone makes being work-alone untenable.

On the plus side I've learned something about myself.
On the opposite-of-plus side what I learned is something I can't handle and makes me over-anxious.

norabird posted 3/16/2014 21:16 PM

Good for you! Hope the lead turns into something great. The main thing is you're taking action to get to a better situation for yourself. Sending job mojo!

nowiknow23 posted 3/16/2014 21:19 PM

Fingers crossed for you, Brandon.

Brandon808 posted 3/16/2014 21:35 PM

Thank you norabird and nik.

I'm hoping it works out too. Even thinking of it working out makes me feel better.

Williesmom posted 3/16/2014 21:37 PM

Hoping you find the right fit.

sisoon posted 3/16/2014 23:00 PM

You might read The Psychology or Computer Programming by Gerry Weinberg for some comments on introverts needing people. It won't do much for you, but you might find it interesting. Weinberg is brilliant.

A thought - you might look into you local Chamber of Commerce for a SOHO group and other meetings. It gets you out and among people. Not a perfect fit for you, but you'd probably find other people with similar interest, some of whom may actually be single women with enthusiasm for life.

Brandon808 posted 3/16/2014 23:01 PM

Thank you Williesmom

Appreciate everyone's support.

Brandon808 posted 3/17/2014 08:08 AM

Thanks sisoon. I look into that too.

I have found some local groups for my interest in creative writing, but that's once a week.

I'm about to kick-off the week from hell. My current job has stacked so many meetings on this week that it is utterly ridiculous. One day at a time and praying for good news from that other opportunity.

Brandon808 posted 3/17/2014 21:32 PM

Update on the update...

I've been told an offer letter is forthcoming. This position could be a great opportunity. It could be very risky. They're looking for someone to be a quality manager because quality of the work on the project is having issues. I know a lot of the people on the project. I know the work in general. At a minimum it will get out of the 100% work from home position which is definitely not for me. If this job isn't right-for-me it is at least right-for-now.

On the very positive side my resume and interview were strong enough to get me an offer letter going inside 48 hours. Happy about that.

Most of all I'm happy for the support of friends and family. That includes my friends here on SI who have been so supportive through some very dark and difficult moments over the past two years.

norabird posted 3/17/2014 21:33 PM

That's amazing Brandon!!!!! Congrats!!!!

Brandon808 posted 3/17/2014 21:35 PM

Thanks Norabird

I'm a little nervous. I've never been a job-hopper. My shortest stint was 3 years. Before that was 4 years.

5454real posted 3/17/2014 21:45 PM

I'm really glad things are looking up for you Brandon. you know for an introvert you sure have a lot of friends.

Brandon808 posted 3/17/2014 21:50 PM

Thanks 5454real

Yes, I do have a lot of friends. And that irony is not lost on me that as an introvert I need to be around people.

nowiknow23 posted 3/17/2014 21:56 PM

Great news, Brandon. I'll keep mojo heading your way until it's all said and done.

Brandon808 posted 3/17/2014 22:05 PM

Thank you nik

The mojo is much appreciated.

SoVerySadNow posted 3/18/2014 00:24 AM

Sending mojo.

MovingUpward posted 3/18/2014 07:07 AM

Good luck Brandon

And still look to find an outside activity to get you in a non-work environment.

Brandon808 posted 3/18/2014 07:16 AM

Thanks SoVerySadNow. All mojo welcome

Thanks Moo
I'm working on that too. At the moment my current job has me pulling about 60-70 hours per weeks so that search will have to wait.

brokensmile322 posted 3/18/2014 07:23 AM

Good luck Brandon! I don't think working from home would be good for me either. Fingers crossed for you!

[This message edited by brokensmile322 at 7:23 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]

Williesmom posted 3/18/2014 07:54 AM

Yay! You go, girl! Uh.... You go, guy!

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