I feel somewhat bad giving my 2 cents on this forum without any update on my situation in over a year.
My WS has struggled with NC and broke NC about a year ago (8/2013) and has since put NC as some sort of responsibility on me, where I told her to basically fuck off and die.
St. Patrick's day is here and it marks the 2-year anniversary to me being put in jail on false charges so my WS could fuck OM#1 in my bed while I was in jail, then offer him up about $800 of my things on his way out.
So, I haven't had sex in 9+ months in this dysfunctional relationship, yet remained focus on trying to R and see to her needs, healing and issues. She has not been in IC this past year and refuses to go back to it and has a million additional excuses to boot, which I simply do not care about.
I've been in perpetual 180 mode, which I have to admit has been great. 90% of my excise cash has been put towards my hot-rod and I'm working on me. I've reconnected with family and friends that she forebode me from.. as well as I continue to participate here despite her constant/daily efforts to give me ultimatums of "SI or me!" which I answer "SI.. Cya" to her unemployed ass that is 3000 miles from her family and with $0 to her name
In some ways, there is progress. She has admitted 1000x that affairs don't work and she has told me at least that many times that she would have never started this shit IF she knew the end result. I have told her in response that being sorry for being caught means nothing to me and she needs to start working on remorse.
So that is where we are after 2 years post DDay. Not where I'd like things to be but I'm still happy since I'm in control of things now and while I may have a slight leech involved now, it's nothing like it was and I'm doing what I WANT now.