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User Topic: How long till OW meets kids
♀ 42192
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Default  Posted: 2:51 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ok so WH is with OW. A week ago he tried to introduce kids to AP.

I might add its 5 weeks out from d day and second time he had visitation (douche). For want of nothing but dumb luck it didn't occur, and I found out, after the fact..and all hell broke loose.

I felt it a huge slap in the face that he tried to bribe the little ones with presents and to play with her puppy. I told him that AP is no friend to our children, and as such does not deserve a place in their lives. He tells me that he wants to know how she gets along with kids before he starts seeing her (ass hat).

I said at the very least I deserve the consideration to be given he heads up before any such visits take place.

He agreed to wait "a couple of weeks". (Idiot) to which I suggested months....

Side note, he also wants miss 11 weeks the past 5 weeks he has seen her a total of 30 minutes... She doesn't even know who he is. I'll fight that one on court if I have to.

How long is long enough to wait to introduce AP to kids. The older 2 know who she is and want no part of her

[This message edited by Sadmumma at 2:52 AM, March 17th (Monday)]

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Me 41 BS
Him 41 WH
6 kids...7 weeks, 5,7,9,11&13
D day jan 29th 2014

Posts: 536 | Registered: Jan 2014 | From: Land down under
♀ 42148
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Default  Posted: 3:17 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

In normal situations, I don't think kids should meet new people until it's serious. But, when your in lurve, it's always serious. I certainly don't think they should meet new people while their parents are still married. But, I also don't think you should start an affair while married either. Sounds like he'll probably do what he wants anyway. Maybe if you could get a professional opinion, he'll be more likely to listen to reason.

And I would fight fight fight too keep my newborn from staying overnights. No way no how.

Posts: 73 | Registered: Jan 2014
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please go see a lawyer and find out if and how you can keep your baby from doing any overnights with WH. Since you're not in the US, I'm not sure how the laws work in your country. I do hope that you're filing for divorce. If he's with the OW, then you need to get your finances untangled so that he doesn't spend your marital assets on the OW.

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 10034 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
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Default  Posted: 3:51 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If he is still married to you, the kids should NOT meet OW, and depending on the laws in Australia, you may be able to take legal action to keep her away from them.

If you are no longer married, then he should not introduce them unless the relationship is serious.

I would agree that a lawyer is a very good idea at this point.

Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

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