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mal2006 posted 3/17/2014 08:14 AM

After talking and talking and talking and not feeling satisfied with what information I've been given about the A's, I am having WH sit down and finally just write everything out for me. Thoughts, words, actions, the whole bit. I hope he takes this as seriously as I am and gives me all of this information once and for all. I feel stuck and I need this to move forward. So exhausted...

norabird posted 3/17/2014 10:50 AM

Here's hoping he follows through.

TheBestMe posted 3/17/2014 10:59 AM

In my case, H would not give me a timeline. So, I gave him one based on the notes in my journals. H was saddened by what he saw because as he put it "I know what I did".

I hope you get the answers that you seek.

AML04 posted 3/17/2014 11:06 AM

I also write a timeline based on what WH told me but wasn't happy about it. Our new MC made him write one of his own. We started going over it in our last session and will hopefully finish it at the next. It's way harder hearing it from his mouth but it was very important to me that he had to sit down and really think about what he did.

I hope yours takes it seriously and you get the answers you're looking for.

mal2006 posted 3/17/2014 14:19 PM

Thanks guys. He wrote out one for OW#1 this morning when he got home from work, then I told him I couldn't deal with reading about OW#2 before I go to school (she's the EA/PA and he told her he loved her) so he's doing that while I'm gone. I still question some things about OW#1 but it definitely helps to have it all written down in front of me so I know what I want to ask. Nervous about reading the rest tonight...