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User Topic: Damn, Damn, Damn...
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 11:13 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Back in October, I met a really nice gentleman on a trail ride up in the mountains of Virginia. He was the guide on a beautiful fall day ride. The group of riders consisted of me and my mother, so it was a small, intimate little ride up mountains and down through meadows and streams.

For 2 hours, we talked and talked and talked. I'm not a "talker" either... but with him, we had lots to talk about.

When the ride was over and my mom and I were back in the car, we both said (almost simultaneously) "How cute was he!!??" She said "I thought for sure he was going to ask for your number, but I think he's shy..." He was soft-spoken and gentlemanly and he shared a love of horses.

I haven't been able to stop thinking about him since October. For me, this is major because I've been pretty numb for the past 5 years. No one has evoked even the slightest twinge in me for a very, very long time.

If I had to guess, I'd say he was quite a bit younger than me. I know a few details about him and I've tried to search for him on Facebook/online, etc. but I don't want to go overboard either.

Damn. Damn. Damn. Why didn't I do something back then?


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 11:18 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Sounds like it's time for another trail ride.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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Artemisia
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh I LOVE stories like this, that sounds like an amazing day back in October. I'm living vicariously through you!

I'm with NIK. Go on another trail ride and request him by name. Is that a possibility for you? No matter what, a springtime trail ride sounds fantastic.

And don't worry for even a minute about him being younger than you. I have heard WAY too many real-life stories on this topic by now. It has been fully confirmed over and over that age gap is not important when you've got a good man and a good connection on your hands.

It's worth a shot!


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JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 11:45 AM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I agree, NIK!!!!


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 12:12 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh yes, Artemisia...a spring ride is definitely in the plans...but I will be so nervous now that I've been thinking of him all this time!

I guess I didn't realize during the fall ride how giddy I'd be about it all after the fact!

I can still picture the way his boot looked in the stirrup from behind! Isn't that crazy!?

This is totally unlike me!

OMgosh...my stomach is churning just thinking about it!


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

..
I can still picture the way his boot looked in the stirrup from behind! Isn't that crazy!?

..are you sure you didn't mean to say:

"I can still picture the way his behind looked from above his boot in the stirrup" ???

..definitely arrange for a 'spring ride'..

GIDDY_UP!!

smy

[This message edited by somanyyears at 2:48 PM, March 17th (Monday)]


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
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thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 2:34 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you know if he is single?


BH - no longer 49
3 DD's - (29, 25 and 18)
Divorced on 8/6/09

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She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 2:56 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I hate moments like that.....I had one the other day with Conan the Barbarian running next to me on the treadmill....OMG...cutie pie....and then another time with a cutie in Sam's club with who looked like his mother and his daughter.....but most likely they were both NOT single. I never tried anything. Although I DID have the guts to ask the "mother" of the one guy how old the little girl was because I told them she looked about my daughter's age....and she was exactly Piper's age! The guy and the lady both smiled and wished me a good day..... ARGH.....

Then there was the adorable periodontist that had the great smile and sparkling personality...who had me laughing with his jokes....and the sparkling wedding ring to go along with it....DAMN. Foiled again.

I think all of the good ones are either taken....gay....or got stuck up in a tree somewhere.... if you see a rogue white horse running around you will know MY Mr. Right is in a tree.....somewhere. Stuck. Forever.

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:48 PM, March 17th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


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JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 4:32 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

"I can still picture the way his behind looked from above his boot in the stirrup" ???


OMG! Just to show how horribly "out of the loop" I am on anything remotely romantic or sexual---I really did mean his boot!

LOL!!!!!!


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So you know if he is single?

I don't know. He didn't have a ring, but I know that doesn't mean anything, really.

I don't know how to go about finding this information out!??? Short of calling the stable & ASKING. OMG, I would just die...


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

LOL, Shelly!


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
thyme2go
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Default  Posted: 5:54 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

The real question is why didn't he do something in October? Thus the reason I say to exercise caution. Many guys (self included) do not like to be chased or "fought for". Letting a guy know you are interested OTOH, is fine.


BH - no longer 49
3 DD's - (29, 25 and 18)
Divorced on 8/6/09

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Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 6:02 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Have your mom call and ask the questions. That way, she will just be the nosy mom, ....


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Oh gosh...I've never chased nor fought for a guy in my
entire life & I certainly am not about to start now...that's totally not my style.

It's just nice to know that I might actually be able to "feel" again after all these years!

Here's to our spring ride !


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 9:28 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Williesmom, my mom has had that idea already!! I told her I would just die if she started nosing around!r


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes.....and no matter what you do....IF you ever do get the chance to see or talk to this guy again.....listen carefully....never EVER mention that you googled him... (even though we all do it eventually)

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:42 PM, March 17th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
She11ybeanz
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Default  Posted: 9:46 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yes.....and no matter what you do....IF you ever do get the chance to see or talk to this guy again.....listen carefully....never EVER mention that you googled him...

However flattering that may be......it would probably be taken in more of a fatal instinct/stalkerish kinda way... (I've done it too though...in fact one of my friends googled the periodontist and even told me he was married to another dentist! I was like...."How the heck did you find that out!!??" Apparently she was a better stalker than me..... YEESH.....maybe being single is just easier!!!

[This message edited by She11ybeanz at 9:49 PM, March 17th (Monday)]


"Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"

ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12


Posts: 2732 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Virginia
mixedemotions
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Default  Posted: 12:54 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ooh I love this story! Totally know that feeling...never had something quite so romantic as the context though!

I say definitely go back for another "ride" hehe but also if you don't or are unable to find him again, don't be so bummed! How nice to have gotten all revved up over someone again, now you know it's in there and you'll be ready to make yourself more available to the next guy! One who lives in your area (since it sounds like this place wasn't) and maybe even who makes the first move on YOU so you you're saying "damn, damn damn" in the good way, as in "damn that was flattering" "damn that felt good" "damn that man is into me!" And you totally deserve that!


Me: Former BW, 28
Divorced 10/11/12
He didn't show up for the D...very fitting, seeing as he didn't show up for the M, either : )
"What did not demolish me simply polished me, now the clearer I can see" - India Arie

Posts: 382 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Back in the Southeast!
JenniMay
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Default  Posted: 10:05 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

never EVER mention that you googled him

Oh nooooooooooo...never!


Actually, I didn't think about Googling him---I just looked to see if he was on FB.

Oh gawd...don't give me any ideas!


Betrayed after 13 years of marriage.
DDay & Separated - June 2009
Divorced - March 2010


Posts: 686 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: On the Coast in Virginia
Undefinabl3
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Default  Posted: 10:11 AM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

His name wasn't Farris Duckard was it LOL

When I was much younger, this same EXACT thing happend. While I was at Snow Mountain YMCA park with a bunch of girl scouts (i was a chaperone) I went on a small all day trail ride with this guide and we literally talked the whole friggen time....had breakfast and lunch together, and i even got a kiss when i left - but damn it if i didnt get his contact information to mail or call him!!

I am almost 100% sure that is not his real name, but who cares. I had such a lovely time and its a great memory to keep.


Me: 31 MH
Him: 37 MH
New online find 6/19/14 - shit
Phone Find 11/21/14 - I can't even right now.

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