You still feel responsible for his happiness. This is someone you shared your life with. It is normal to feel this way. It takes time for your give-a-fuck to break. In my experience the sad clown helped that along significantly with the fuckery he pulled once he realised his Hoovering wasn't working anymore.
Don't get sucked in. Pls read the Hoovering thread - you'll recognise a lot of it. http://www.survivinginfidelity.com/forums.asp?tid=480828
[This message edited by SBB at 9:23 PM, March 17th (Monday)]
Have fun on your trip, and don't feel bad about it!
"A unicorn isn't a unicorn. It's a donkey with a plunger stuck to it's face."
Those ties that bind take time to hack off, some we have to wait until they die off.
I read that and thought "until they (stbx) dies off" and nodded right along...
ah, the days of wishing he would just die.
Angeles, You do deserve to be happy!! You must move forward! If he is unhappy, it is called consequences for HIS behavior.
Hang in there and keep moving forward!