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LostSamurai posted 3/17/2014 19:26 PM

My WW wants to know why I was quiet? I was triggering/having a mind movie just pop up on me.

I want to explain in detail, what is exactly going on. How do I go about that? I want her to know what I am feeing and going through, but I don't want to do it in a way to make her defensive...even though that may be what happens.

tushnurse posted 3/17/2014 19:29 PM

Well she will be defensive because she knows she has caused it. She also needs to hear the brutal truth. If she is starting to get it, then she will be understanding and ask how she can help you.

LostSamurai posted 3/17/2014 19:30 PM

I doubt if she wants to help...

LostSamurai posted 3/17/2014 20:33 PM

I was basically right. I explained to her what the triggers due to me and all and she says she doesn't want to live like that. She doesn't want to live knowing that I am upset almost everyday she says. I am not upset everyday but sometimes things trigger and I have to deal with it.

sisoon posted 3/17/2014 20:36 PM

Try this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trauma_trigger

LostSamurai posted 3/18/2014 06:07 AM

I explained triggers to her and all and she said she thinks she understands. Of course, this is all over text because she is at work. Not sure if she truly gets it.

LostSamurai posted 3/18/2014 06:07 AM

I explained triggers to her and all and she said she thinks she understands. Of course, this is all over text because she is at work. Not sure if she truly gets it.

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