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Chrysalis123 posted 3/17/2014 19:28 PM

OMG, the last few days have been a rollercoaster of hell.

Today, was a settlement conference with asshole. Found out a lot of unpleasant things such as: DD18, that I thought was being alienated, really was being alienated. He was ready to have my first born child testify against me.

Who does evil like that? How would she deal with this betrayal of her mom for the rest of her life?

He wanted me to pay him 150% of my yearly income for various reasons, next week.

His hate of me out weights his love for his kids. I was in his NPD sights......destroy her.

It was a hard day, but he ended up settling for 10% of his initial amount, and that 10% will be paid directly to the kids. My spousal maintenance will go into a 529 directly benefitting my children.

In my mind, I WON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

He did not get any direct cash, which he wanted... The kids got it. So now I have to pay a bunch to my lawyer..but so what....way less than if we went to a hearing.

My lawyer said he can never go after back child support from today back. My oldest is emancipated as of today.


I AM FREE! I AM FREE!!!

I feel like the weight of the world is off my back.

MovingUpward posted 3/17/2014 19:31 PM


Whooooooooo-hooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SBB posted 3/17/2014 19:35 PM

His hate of me out weights his love for his kids. I was in his NPD sights......destroy her.

Absolutely right. Unbelievable to realise, right?

I AM FREE! I AM FREE!!!

Same comment. Absolutely right. Unbelievable to realise, right?

I started listening to this song for the whole week prior to the notification that D was finalised. A message from the universe to me. I am free!!

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=dRcRhWErjjo

nowiknow23 posted 3/17/2014 19:51 PM

HOORAY!!!!! Congratulations, honey!

Chrysalis123 posted 3/17/2014 19:53 PM

SBB..thanks for the song. It is perfect and made me cry.

MOO and NIK..thanks for the support

Nature_Girl posted 3/17/2014 19:55 PM

Beautiful song, SBB.

Chrysalis, now you can soar, Honey. Fly & soar & live your life without chains.

Kajem posted 3/17/2014 20:46 PM

My friend, you are more a Phoenix than a Crysallis -you know that, don't you? What a wonderful way to out maneuver him!

Your free to fly! I can't wait to see how high you soar without his chains dragging you down.

Love and hugs,
K

cantaccept posted 3/17/2014 20:48 PM

So happy for you! Congratulations!

caregiver9000 posted 3/17/2014 20:57 PM

Big celebration (((hugs))).

I hope he chokes on his own disappointment.

Chrysalis123 posted 3/17/2014 21:05 PM

With tears, thank you friends.

tesla posted 3/17/2014 21:09 PM

Good for you.
And FTG.

Chrysalis123 posted 3/17/2014 21:13 PM

Yes, and FTG...FTG...FTG

MadeOfScars posted 3/17/2014 21:17 PM

I just got my finalization date today. I am not free, but I see the finish line. My D is not going nearly as tough as your's sounds though, so all I'll say is I am happy you are now free, and you feel like you won. Peace and strength to you and your kids - the worst is over!

Lost15 posted 3/17/2014 21:44 PM

Congratulations! I'm glad that things went good for you. They didn't go as well for my mediation today.

norabird posted 3/17/2014 21:50 PM

That's great!

PurpleRose posted 3/17/2014 23:25 PM

What a relief! So awesome to be DONE!!

woundedby2 posted 3/18/2014 00:50 AM

Fantastic! So happy for you!!

GabyBaby posted 3/18/2014 00:56 AM

Freeeeeedoooooooom!!!!!

[This message edited by GabyBaby at 12:57 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]

dreamlife posted 3/18/2014 01:31 AM

Bravo!!!!

dmari posted 3/18/2014 01:35 AM


I am feeling so happy for you!!

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