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User Topic: DD first "Not a crush"
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Happy  Posted: 8:04 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'd like to not announce that my daughter definitely does not have a crush on a boy. And that getting up an hour early does not mean anything, he is just a friend. Even though if you look up DD12 in the dictionary you see a picture of a night owl.

God help me!

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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

You can call me NIK

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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Good luck with that


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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been through 4 DD and crushes. I want to know how daddy is handling it!

XH was out of the house by the time my kids started crushing on boys, so I missed out on a dad's reaction.

Now the important question..... Is he cute?

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Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, March 17th (Monday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My DD14 has a BF.

Now they've never been on a date, they've never talked on the phone...I'm not sure they even exchange words at school! They text and so 'are BF/GF' (I talked to his parents and we're all okay with's really pretty much nothing; we check phones, no icky stuff. They are actually quite boring! LOL!).

Sheesh, when I was 14, me and BF passed 'do you like me?' me notes between class & will you be at roller rink Friday type stuff. LOL!

What do we know? To them, we love to do laundry, gripe about chores and makes meals. What could we possibly 'get' about real life stuff like non-crushes?!

[This message edited by wannabenormal at 11:44 PM, March 17th (Monday)]

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Default  Posted: 2:14 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

If DD15 has had a crush on a boy she hides it well.

She is a freshman in HS and this year a senior was walking her to class and asked her to a dance. She finally told him, "look, I really don't like you like that." He cried.

She's always kind to everyone she was just nervous and didn't know how to handle it so when she got home and told me about it she cried because she hurt his feelings.

Ah, high school.....I don't miss you at all.

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Default  Posted: 2:30 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

OH Boy.

My DD is 14 and a freshman, and still thinks most boys are stupid. But recently has started commenting on actors that are "cute" or "hot". She also has mentioned an upper classman that is in her choir that she thinks is pretty cute.

She tells me she doesn't have time for that stuff. She is too busy being a good friend and making good grades. We will see......

Now DS, oh geezo.....He is LURRVE. When she breaks up with him it is going to be a disaster.

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Default  Posted: 8:05 PM, March 18th (Tuesday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

We have a sneaking suspicion that DS13 has a "not a crush" and possibly a "not my girlfriend" OY!

Me: FBW/33 The kidlets: DS15, DS12, and DD9 The hounds: Four Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, March 20th (Thursday), 2014View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Reminds me when my dd was about that age she told me she had a bf. I asked "What does that mean? Do you eat lunch together?" Her resonse...

"OMG NO!! That would be embarrassing!"

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