[This message edited by phoenixrise at 12:50 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]
You ARE a great mom. You always have plans - you can still do it without him. Go buy you and you mother's corsage, make the meal plans out and tell mom it's just you and the kids!
Don't wait on him to make a great day, it may or may not happen, so YOU make it your day.
Take care of YOU and yours; let him do his thing. I know it's hard not to, since you always have - but it's time to let him stand on his two feet.
AP will probably do it, if asked. She'll feel all special with such a task. But everyone will know it's crap. You hold your head high and do your regular thing. The people it matters to WILL know. Send his mom a card from you, if you always have, you know? Don't let him rain on your parade.
Adding - all the 'firsts' are extra shitty, but it's the time to make new memories. Keep that in mind. I know it's hard, but you will get through it.
[This message edited by wannabenormal at 2:06 AM, March 18th (Tuesday)]
You make new memories as you go along, they will be just as special to you, different to the ones before DDay but just as special.