You are three months out today. Your status says you are in limbo. If you want to R, I see nothing wrong with checking up on her. And she should welcome it...if she wants to R.
The difference between obsessing and verifying, IMO, is that if you are obsessing, then you are unable to do anything else, you can't function day to day. However, this is absolutely normal in the early months after dday.
As for her car being parked so far from the building..FWH used to do that at work too. When he was watching porn in his van during breaks at work. So he had "privacy." Yuck. The point is, he was up to no good. YMMV
M: June 2001
Status: Reconciled. Love my "new" husband!
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.