Where should a relationship be at this point? This is really my first actual dating relationship since EXWH.
We've been dating/seeing each other (his words) for not quite 3 months. Our first date-ish was early jan. Basically we've seen each other every weekend since then for hours and hours at a time, and 2 or 3 instances of a date evening during the week days in that period. But typically once per week period.
(I live 45 min from where he lives and I work later hours though we're both moving seperately but nearer to each other within the next several weeks)
Two of those weekends now have been overnight as we became intimate. Sometimes it's structured dates, but not always. Last weekend for example was a mini road trip to run an errand he needed to complete.
We text every day a few times in the day (he initiates mostly mid day as I'm typically engrossed at work - I'm working on being better about that) and before going to bed he'll say goodnight.
I've met a few of his friends and this past weekend his friends long term gf said "finally, I'm meeting you!"
He mentioned something about that he said to his mom that she should have breakfast with us since I've stayed on the weekend, and his mom wants to see him on the weekend so it'd need to be together if she wanted to see him then. Apparently she declined and said he should hold off on subjecting me to her. That wasn't exactly her response but something like that.
Is all of this normal at this point, we've had about 15 dates.
I am looking for a benchmark I guess, even though this is all subjective, as I don't want things to be moving too quickly.
I really like spending time with him. On the flip side, when he says nice things about me my first inclination is to question why he's saying it, and what is his motive. So I'm nervous spending time with him as well.
Meanwhile EXWH emails nearly every other day about what he regrets doing because in his words "he wishes he found this remorse earlier bc while maybe it'd change nothing, maybe it would have changed a lot" now he feels terrible about things and his living-with fiancée supports him apologizing and trying to make it up to me. I don't answer him.
But honestly, Yea right, what do you bet she has no real idea of the False R, how I did everything/paid for the D, everything. Not worth my time to wonder about anymore though.
This is difficult. It all seems so extra scary. Clearly I'm not going to fall over and die if this NB doesn't go well, but it's still difficult to even give it a fair shot no matter how much I like him. What do you guys think, is this normal at this point, or do I need to reign it in?
Thanks so much, and I hope everyone is having a good day.