I was off to a sporting event this am with youngest DD. Walking past nice hotel on beach we bump into a gentleman coming out of the front door. I look up to apologise and recognise my friend's partner of 4 years.
It is 8.30am, it's the other side of town from where they live, it is not in his work location and he is inappropriately dressed for his job.
He looks very smartly dressed, but slightly dishevelled. he apologises, stammers, tries to make small talk and fails.
My friend was at work at this time, apparently he was at work on a late shift (!)
As far as I can see this is not a red flag this is a huge glowing neon sign
But what on earth do I tell her? Her other good, old friend(whom I do not know well) has just been taken into a hospice and she is now waiting for the call.
I am seeing her later. What should I do or say? I cannot and will not lie but I don't want to hurt her anymore. She has the right to know today.
I need your wisdom, folks xxx