May be overreacting, but this hit a nerve.
My sense of humour of not the only thing about me that has changed
There is a line in a Nelly song that's says something like "I'm just kidding-unless you're gonna do it". Hubby and I use to roar with laughter over it. It's not funny anymore. What made it funny was that it was so ridiculous. He did do it, it's not ridiculous anymore, so it's not funny anymore. At least not from him.
Married 5 years. Dating 9. Living together 8.
If a man took his time on earth
to prove be for he died
what on man's life could be worth
I wonder what would happen to the world
- Harry Chapin
I personally don't find anything to do with infidelity funny, but like others have said here, before I knew the sting, I may have chuckled at this myself. I guess what set me off is this prevalence of an "infidelity isn't a big deal" attitude that I notice so much now in general terms (obviously not on this site). Hell, I say "prevalence," but it may not even be all that prevalent, just rather things I may have given no thought to before I now notice, and they set me off.
I have no idea if that last part made sense, so I'll try another analogy. When we lost our son, it was a very, very difficult time as I'm sure I don't need to say. In the months afterwards, it seemed like everyone was pregnant or had a baby. Obviously that was not the case, but we were so hypersensitive to the topic that, again, we seemingly couldn't escape baby talk and couples with small kids where, before, we did't think about it nearly as much. There were even TV shows and such we had to stop watching because of pregnancy and/or baby subplots (I remember "Bones" being a favorite that suddenly became un-watchable).
Anyway, sorry to ramble, but point of reference is a big part of what people find funny, and I still do not find this funny at all. It's not on me to tell others how if should effect them (though I guess that's kind of what I'm doing ).
For me I tend to compartmentalize humor a bit. Other then with observational comedy jokes are rarely funny because of what they are about. So, to me this is a joke about infidelity as much as it is a non sequitur. A style of humor I'm found of.
Mitch Hedberg (the master of the non sequitur) has a signature joke. It's "I used to do drug." (pause) "I still do, but I used to to." structurally these are the same joke. If I'm going to laugh at a joke about drug addiction I feel like I had better allow myself to laugh at a joke about something that's effected my life.
If you can't laugh at yourself you have no business laughing at someone else.
Heh, I remember being a fan of this Mitch Hedberg joke, but not so much now -
"I don't have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who'd be mad at me for saying that."
All that said, I get what you are saying too
It is not cute or funny. It results in broken hearts and broken homes. Sometimes it even results in suicide or homicide.
It is NOT funny and I think it's dangerous to give people who don't know any better the impression that it is.
As for the humor? My doc and I were talking about this last night. I used to listen to XM radio comedy all the time on my commutes to pass the time. Now, I rarely bother because it's a trigger minefield.
I laugh at inappropriate jokes all the time. Inappropriate jokes are my favorite. For example-I laugh at murder jokes. Nobody I've been close to has been murdered. If they had, I probably wouldn't laugh at them anymore either.
This is exactly how I feel. WH's EA started because he jokingly asked OW for a naughty picture, and she did it. He was constantly throwing things out there as a joke or that he didn't think it would happen but guess what, after the first couple times you can't tell me you didn't know what she would do.
eta: I do realize their "friendship" had to be inappropriate well before the picture was sent for him to even joke about it...
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