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Jacobswife posted 3/19/2014 20:22 PM

So after I learned of my husband's affair I told some of my siblings and mom. One of my sister (who I have a great relationship with) is very angry with my WH. She said, "I hold grudges!" which, of course, I knew! I have explained that we are trying to reconcile and are both in IC working toward making ourselves better. I also told her of the ways my WH is being transparent and is remorseful. Soon we have some really big family events and I am worried she can't forgive and move forward with us. I know she wants to protect me and for that I am grateful. But still, I am worried! Suggestions? Advice?

swank posted 3/19/2014 20:36 PM

I would talk to her before you all see each other and ask her, out of love and respect for you, to keep her feelings to herself. Our friends and family want to stand up for us in these awful situations, but this is between you and your husband and she needs to give you room to figure it out. If your relationship is as good as you say, she'll understand and agree.