I'm struggling with someone I just met. We got along well and I don't find him unattractive per se. I just feel like I don't know who he is, which could make him either more or less attractive once I find out.
Generally by the third date, I'm sure which way it will go.
I think an important part of dating is learning yourself, and how you react to other people. Cmego and I (for example) are really different in dating, not better or worse, but different, and I think for both of us, learning our own habits and patterns, like when we sense attraction, helped ease the process, because as you move into that "dating self awareness", you can trust your gut more, and know what you need to look for, what works for you (even if it's different from everyone else you know).
Most of the bad dating advice I've gotten has been trying to convince me that I need to behave in a way that is personal to the person giving the advice, instead of to me.
Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron
It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling
I think it takes time and if it isn't a no practice moderation and see. There is no definition needed unless that is something you all discuss.
Have fun and time will tell