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Every once in a while I get an email from his mom and it is hard because we were close and I love her to death. Received an email from her today because my dad posted an article in the newspaper and she wanted to make sure I saw it. I deleted her an other's family members and friends of his on FB about a month ago because I needed to for my own healing process. Sharing a little bit of her email and mine back. I should really get y'alls opinion before replying.

Her email:

Hope things are going well with you three and the furry three that live with you. Hard to believe it's been more than a year now since he (replaced his name) moved out.... I still feel the pain and you may, too.

I know we have drifted apart, and that is a natural thing to happen in a case like this, but you are still in my heart.

My response:

Yes, it was a long year but I am doing so much better and realize that it was a blessing in disguise. The pain is actually subsided completely but I have had an amazing support system. I still deal with bouts of anger for what he did and how he did it, but that is getting less and less.

I am sorry that I had to delete you and so many others from FB but my support group suggested that I do it for my own healing process. I think about him less and less, but seeing posts, etc just made him pop back into my head. I love you so much and that will not change!!! Please know that!!! That has been a hard part of the whole process.

I really think its a good response.

I feel like the OW loves breaking up families and it made me very very sad that I never received a message like this from my WH family.

You responded perfectly.

My STBX is now estranged from his mother, and the evil douchebag refuses to let her see the kids, so she goes through me to see them. But, I blocked her and his whole family on Facebook and keep our conversations strictly related to the kids. They didn't do anything wrong, but it's just the situation now.. It hurts like hell to lose people I called my family for over 10 years, but it's nice that we can slowly build a relationship that has nothing to do with him..

Personally, I would try to steer conversations with your Xmil to anything BUT your ex..

As someone who has a decent relationship w my XMIL, under the circumstances, I agree that your response was great.

Great response. She sounds like a really nice lady.

I know how you feel. Losing my relationship with my awesome MIL is going to be one of the hardest parts of this ordeal.

Thank you all so much! I of course was worried...go figure

I think the whole thing is awesome from both sides.

You are very lucky. My IL's claimed to be upset about what he did, but then they shut me out, and invited the OW to holiday dinner.

It was like I never existed, and it tore my soul apart. It still hurts. It's one of the things I still struggle with.

My IL's claimed to be upset about what he did, but then they shut me out, and invited the OW to holiday dinner.

Sparky, his family has embraced her and she was also with them during the holidays. His mom is actually the only one who knows about the affair in his family. I never told the rest of his family (who he is really close to)and I'm sure she didn't either out of embarrassment. I'm not even sure that they know what happened. It wouldn't matter anyway because they enable him. Well, don't know if it enabling or if they love him and just have to move on. He is very close to his aunt, uncle, cousins, etc and his mom and I both hid a lot of his issues from them (suicide attempt, addiction problems, etc). I enabled him as well apparently, but no longer my problem.